Dan and Jenn talk about BDSM fetishes, and try to explain what makes people enjoy the different things they do.
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Jennifer: This one is from Tom in Indiana. Hello Dan and Jennifer. I found your videos on Youtube. I’m glad to know there's someone out there who isn’t afraid of the taboo topics. Speaking of taboos, I have a bit of a kink. I enjoy wearing a collar. Dan: We all do in time. Jennifer: I enjoy wearing a collar and a leash. Not walking erect and being petted or other times, wearing a halter, bit, saddled and being groomed. I find it extremely exciting. Dan: Somebody really wanted a pony. Jennifer: Does this qualify some kind of BDSM fetish? How popular is it and why does it appeal to different people? Okay. Dan: I don’t know. Why do different fetishes appeal to different people? Jennifer: I’m going to be honest with you on this one. We had to consult our panel of experts on this one. Anyway, and it was kind of, the consensus, pretty general across the board. Do you want to tell them our thoughts or the panel’s thoughts first? Dan: Let’s go with the panel’s thoughts first. Jennifer: Okay. Dan: Then we will expand on it. Jennifer: So, basically, various fetishes are very common across the board, okay, we all have our kinks. We all have our boxes, we may not share them with everyone but, they were all weird in some way. Dan: Most people perceive their sexual activity as normal, whatever they like to do. Jennifer: It’s normal. Dan: And what other people do is, kinky. Jennifer: Or weird or the abnormal or need counseling. Dan: And sooner we get over that, the better it is. Jennifer: So, but basically, the reason this kind—and I’m going to read this because I don’t want to forget anything but basically the reason this particular fetish might appeal to someone—oh, and by the way they did say that this is probably more of a fetish and less of the BDSM component unless— Dan: And it’s rarer. Jennifer: Unless you like to be spanked or there is a submission component to it. Some flogging, you know, the really bondage, domination. Dan: The good old BDSM bondage stuff. Jennifer: Yeah! Dan: It’s very common. But this is a little unique. Jennifer: Yeah! Dan: It’s okay. Jennifer: But basically, there was probably some kind of trigger point as a child, right. We get to blame our parents for all of our weirdness. But basically, you know, maybe it was a movie or a story that you read or maybe your parents had a pony ride that they showed a lot of attention as a child. Dan: Or dog or a cat, a very beloved animal, though it sounded like a pony. Jennifer: And maybe as a child you felt that they got more attention than you did and so, you know, you kind of went to this role. This is more of a role playing thing. Dan: You wanted the attention and the affection and that’s where a lot of these fetishes come from, childhood. Jennifer: Yeah! The male obsession with the breast, duh. Dan: They are excellent. Jennifer: But basically, I mean, we’re not psychologists, if you think you might have a problem. If you feel like you're taking it too far, if its interfering with your life, then you need to get professional help. Dan: I mean, if all you want to do everyday is dress up as a pony, I mean, really, if this is absolutely all you ever do, then it could constitute a problem but what it comes down to in most cases, most of the fetish questions that we get, consent the adults, instead of you getting hurt, so what? Whose business is it but yours, right? Jennifer: Yeah! He’s looking for approval again. Before you guys say it in the comments, he is looking to make sure that what he is saying is okay. Dan: That girl got to agree, every time. Jennifer: Yeah! Basically, our perspective on this is as long as you're having fun, you're partner is having and everybody agrees to what's going on, you know, there is no coercion or manipulation or anything like that, have fun. Dan: Consenting adults. Jennifer: Just say that again, consenting adults.

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