Kay Warren talks about how she makes her marriage work.
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[Music Playing] Well, we have been married almost 32 years. It is been 32 ½ and sometimes we are jokingly say we been married something like you know 28 happy years out of those 32. Our first couple years were really rough. We are so different and we had a very strange and unusual courtship in that was a long history which I will not go into, but the bottom line is we did not really know each other when we got married. And so all the things that we tell couples today like really get to know each other, spent at least a year, go through every season you know spring, winter, fall, summer. See each other in good times, the bad times; we did not do any of those things. And we were to take on those E-harmony or some are those you know dating quizzes that way. Every red flag would come up because we are so different. But we have learned, I think the great thing about that is has taught as how to share, how to be unselfish because we are so different. It would be easy to just want to do every thing our own way. Ric is - he is brilliant. I do not know anybody like him but he is so fun. He is this total sanguine. I think my kids, one of my kids favorite memories is I am always the rule follower and I like you know you got to go to bed at this time, got school, you got homework, and Ric come breezing in you know from out of town and go hey, it is 10 o’clock, let us go on one of daddy’s magical mystery tours. Get them out of bed, take them down somewhere and get them ice cream and I am going they got school tomorrow! But, he is so spontaneous and he is so fun. His brought a lot of lightness to my life and I think because I am really serious and intense and really passionate about stuff that and much more realistic. So, I am the one whose eyes like taking this feet and yank in them, you know back down to planet earth while he is soaring around you know thinking on this or that. It is really good that we are different. It is taking a long time. I think our differences pulled us apart and for many years, it is taking along time but I think now, we really do appreciate the fact that we see life differently, we approach life differently, we approach situations differently. Our lives are richer because of that. I think a lot other people would have gotten divorce. The amount of differences that we have and the way that it did pull us apart, I think a lot of people would just say this is too hard. This relationship is just too hard, but we were committed, we took a vow before God that we were going to stay together and we are just telling some folks last night at dinner that when we got married almost 32 years ago, we just knew almost nothing about each other. We do not know how to communicate, we fought about all the things money, sex, communication, in-laws, children; we fought about at all. But on our 25th wedding anniversary, we renewed our vows to each other, one of the sweetest days of my life because then we knew what we are saying and it was it could really say not just for hopes and dreams but really the truth, I am committed to you. You know we are different, we are so different but I can imagine my life without you and I would really encourage people to -- most people give up on marriage too soon. [Music Playing]