Is your child anxious about school starting Video

Heading back to school after a summer of fun doesn’t bring a smile to many faces, but the reluctance some children have can cause extreme anxiety. How can parents help the overly anxious child make a smooth transition back into the school year thi...
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Welcome to the Friday Big Show. I hope you have had an incredible week, I know that I have, some amazing interviews on Wednesday and Thursday with some experts about the back to school transition. Then, of course, next week Wednesday and Thursday, we're going to have the same deal, going there with a whole new set of experts. So, today's topic though for the Big Show, actually, came out of the interviews from Wednesday and Thursday and then another parent, actually, just yesterday, asked me point-blank, what do you do for the child who is extremely reluctant to get back into the school year this fall? And I'm talking about reluctance beyond just -- summer is coming to an end and why we have to start school again? You know what -- most kids' parents, I'm talking about reluctance that really borders on anxiety. So maybe it's a social component, maybe they didn't do well academically, maybe they're moving on to a new academic level, elementary to middle, middle to high school and there is some anxiety about the uncertainty, don't know what to expect. So here's a couple of ideas that I want to share with you. Number one, put together a social gather. Simply brining friends together, school friends, and putting them in the same place, whether you have them all for swim or maybe go out to the movies, to the park, just putting those kids together can sometimes help to ease the anxiety, because then, you see familiar faces the first day at school. So something of a social gathering. Number two idea is put a plan in place, put the plan in place. By that I mean two things. Number one, answer the essential vision question, which is how do we want to be this year as a family? Answer that question. As a group seated at the table, how do we want to be, stressed out, worried, separated? No, Absolutely not. We want to feel connected, we want to be excited, we want to be motivated. Great! Now how can we make that happen? When kids know that parents have a plan in place, that helps to ease some of the anxiety that maybe surrounded the uncertainty. Idea number two there on putting a plan into place, go with the idea map, 24x36 inch at least, piece of bunch of paper, child's name in the center, and then smokes coming off of the middle, what are your dreams this year, what are the goals that you have for yourself, what are the things that are real strings for you? What are some other challenges? Again, creating that visual now of what the year is going to be like. That helps, again, to reduce some of the uncertainty, because now there is a plan, there is a visual road map in place. So that's big idea number two, put the plan to go. Big idea number three, look forward to something, right? Take out the desktop calendars of family and put a date on the calendar, maybe two to three weeks after the school year has gotten started, something we can go and take a day trip or maybe we're going to go out to the movies or we are going to go to dinner, something that helps you look forward in the calendar, that kind of helps to move you through the transition from school, from summer to school, so that you really have something that's out there that you can kind of set your energies on. So, three big ideas for you today, in that back to school crunch and how can we help to ease some of the anxiety, some of the reluctance for kids getting back to school. Have an incredible weekend and I will see you next Monday.

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