Steve Shelov MD Parenting Expert Maimineds Medical Center DrMDK.com
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Host: A very common problem today is, Internet safety for children. Do You have any tips that parents should do, so we could be a little bit less concerned about a kid using the internet and going to facebook and MySpace, all of these places? Guest: Well, the most important thing is be aware of what your child is doing when it comes to Internet. You can also log on as a buddy to your child, getting their permission or awareness that you are doing that. By being a buddy, you can find out sort of exactly where they are going and making sure that they are not wandering into some places that might be unsafe for them or communicating with people that are at all potentially dangerous to them. The other really important thing is to make sure that they don't use identifying names or locations because let's face it. People are unfortunately ready to prey on unsuspecting young kids, we are seeing that all the time and so nothing that allows them to identify your children, your house, your telephone, you ZIP code, nothing. So it's very important that they know that and that you reinforce that in terms of internet safety. Host: So basically good communication, keep the door open and nice bridge is the best method. Guest: As it is all dealing with our children, the better you communicate, the more you understand that what they are doing. The more they understand, that you only have their interest as part. A nine inches, 10 inches intruding on their space. The more you do that, the better you will be, your family will be and your child's well being will be. So keep the communication lines open at all times. Host: I always tell my kids who are near adolescence, I will never get upset if you tell me you did something wrong. I get upset, if find out from a different source. Guest: There is nothing worse between a parent and a child in terms of that trust. Is that your honesty is undermined in some way and the worst thing to do is to sort to go around your kids and try and communicate through friends and suddenly then confront them with something that you have had it sort of backward way. That only hurts the relationship. So avoid that. If you are going t o have a discussion with one of their friend about something, let them know. They may say you don't need to that mom or dad. This is what happened, I could really tell you and the more honesty in that communication is better and more likely it is during the tough times and there will be tough times, teenagers are not a walk in the garden. During these tough times, the communication will at least happen. That's what is really important. Host: Thank you very much.