Some women reach orgasm easily, others don’t. Some know what they need physically to come, others don’t. Many women go for years without ever experiencing an orgasm. Here the panel tells their stories and give advice on how to figure out what you ...
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In this episode the women talk about having sex for a while before ever reaching an orgasm. Female1: I didn’t even know, I mean, I don’t think I even knew that something else was to be happening. And it was a while I realize there's something else that’s suppose to be happening. So there–it were probably like five or six years where I was sexually active and not having orgasms, you know, my early sex life it was always more focused on my partner and their orgasm. And I heard about orgasms around every once and a while and I was like, “Hmm, am I having them? Maybe I'm having them. I don’t know.” The whole thing was that I hadn’t masturbated so I didn’t understand my own body and so–and I think, I mean, I think that that happens for a lot of reasons but I am–I always thought that masturbation was something that men did and I that I didn’t even understand that that was something that I could and–when so you know, my early sex life, it was always more focused on my partner and their orgasm. Female2: Did anyone else have that experience of having sex with men and not orgasming and not even really come recognizing? Female3: Yeah! Definitely, because I think there's a big focus on–like you were saying, like the man getting to the finish and that’s it and then it’s done. And so I was really focused on that and being as good as I could be at having that happen for him, so you know, I really wanted it to be a pleasurable experience. The fact of the matter is like, its going to be a pleasurable experience for him probably even if I was just lying there but not that I love to do that. But once I had my first orgasm which was during sex, I realize like, my life changed and it was much better and then I realize that I can give much more to my partner from knowing what I wanted and contributing in that way then I could just looking for his pleasure. Female2: And how did you reach that? So, did he helped you reach that first orgasm? Female3: Ah, yeah! It took a lot of trial and error. I was having sex for probably two years before that happened. Female2: And Nicole, you were having sex for a while and then reached orgasm on your own and then integrated it. Female4: Yeah! I was having sex for about 12 years without having that. I know, everyone is giving me like this -- but I just–I mean, so much time had passed and I wasn’t having one that I just kind of figured that this model didn’t work with that. Like I just don’t have those and that’s how that goes. So I put all my energy into just intercourse and thought–and became what I thought was pretty good at it. I had a lot of energy for it. I like–you know, look into different positions. I'm really–I got like feedback from people and I figured that that’s how its going to be for me. About time, I'm going to do this, you know and then all my attempts to masturbate over time were sort of feeble. I really don’t recall having conversation with any friends and we’re giving me direction. And then finally somebody who had experience tipped me off and gave me just like a regular vibrator and I worked with it and almost instantaneously I was like, “Son of a bitch. There it is.” 12 years, you know and there it is.

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