Nina Sebastiane discusses the topics of twins and how to help them develop their individuality.
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Nina Sebastiane: We've all seen twins and triplets who have been dressed by their parents in identical clothes very cute. But is it a good thing or should parents and multiples be trying to instill a sense of individuality in their children. Sarah Swegsda from Mumsbe and Delyth Raffell from Twins UK joined me in this studio now with of course -- thanks for coming in. Thank you. So, how come, you must have been inducted when your children born, you have to obviously, so, even more so to dress them in that matching pink thing. Delyth Raffell: No, never. Not from day one. I didn't want them to dress them like same because its two different children, its too different things, and I want them to develop their own personalities, I mean they have anyway, I think you can't stop that. I don't think if you had a baby today and they were 18 months, you wouldn't dress them necessarily the same so I think it just helps to start off as mean to go on, so later on they don't get used to always having the same cloth, but obviously I'm a girl so I'm also, then Sarah. Nina Sebastiane: What would you like to use Sarah with you know boy and a girl because actually we should say this that definitely at one point was possibly going to be another boy. Sarah Swegsda: She was. Often she will search for two weeks, she was a boy and I actually -- of clothes, but they wearing to be -- you know and we had a couple of things that with the same. I don't think because they were in the sand or something we just -- and but seems obviously, we found she was a girl. Well, I just went mad because I'm very pink. So, it's just like frilly pink and very, more pink. Nina Sebastiane: There is another story that you told me before we were rolling cameras, which is that they were going to be -- Michael and Oven. Sarah Swegsda: Thank god. Yes. But he did change that and came out to go, but yeah, he was still quiet, I mean she was going to be Ovena and he was going to be Michael. Nina Sebastiane: So, I mean with twins you know that has the perception change, so these days let's say 25 years ago. Delyth Raffell: I think so. Sarah Swegsda: I think, I mean years ago you had to -- and the silver cross they are willing to do really only the -- around and it was one twin one side and the twin the other side. And you clearly knew that there was no mistaking and they dress them as same, you know everything be very much identical -- Delyth Raffell: Some of the names. Sarah Swegsda: Yeah. Delyth Raffell: And things that are on that -- Sarah Swegsda: Now, it's more, you know I think people are recognizing and they shouldn't be -- no that I shouldn't be dressing the same and it is noise on occasions, but you have to remember these are two individual people. They deserve by individuality it is noise when he was oh, I got twins and yeah, he is lovely and your -- Nina Sebastiane: But if you get walk in the streets -- Sarah Swegsda: -- a time and you really, you just want to ride right people and you know -- Delyth Raffell: You know it's probably the first six months. Sarah Swegsda: He think kind of mom give us a break, you know we are trying to get -- or escrow whatever -- Nina Sebastiane: Factor in another hour and you -- Sarah Swegsda: Yeah, you have to try. Delyth Raffell: She thought about coming assigned; two girls, not identical. This is the way that it takes -- they really ask you the more -- Sarah Swegsda: Yeah. They want to know everything. And I'm got him aimful. Nina Sebastiane: So, what would you, what advices can you give in terms of frustrating individuality then? Delyth Raffell: Yeah. I think when you're pregnant whether or not you find out the sex that you're having and it depends on what you want to know, but think about the names that you're going to use so that they don't -- some people even have. Nina Sebastiane: Million -- Delyth Raffell: Yeah, you know all aged twins -- Sarah Swegsda: Probably. Delyth Raffell: Some people do the backward things with