Question: "We are of different religions and I'm in love with him but don't want to be."
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Hi, I'm Andrea Syrtash, author of He’s Just Not Your Type And That’s A Good Thing, With Ask Your Tango answering your love and relationship questions. Today’s question is from accidentally in love. We're from different religions and I'm in love with him, but don’t want to be. Help me, I am head over heels for this guy. The main issue is I'm Hindu and he's Muslim and I'm worried about how our future will work. What should I do? I love your question accidentally in love because I'm actually a big fan of falling in love accidentally. I think so often we over think dating when in fact we should be more focus on how we feel with another person, how the other person makes us feel. That is a better indicator to see if someone’s a match. Are you feeling bored, happy, inspired? Ask your self those questions instead of over analyzing stuff on paper. That said, I'm not going to say it’s not a big deal if someone of a different faith and your faith is really important to you, your family, your community. The question I’d ask your self isn't so much, should I stay or should I go. There's a third option which maybe what do he and I need to figure out to see if we can meet somewhere in the middle. Is he willing to be open to my customs and my traditions? Am I willing to meet him halfway with his customs and traditions? If the answer is yes, you may be able to work through this. Because you say that you're absolutely crazy about him. And let's be honest, that feeling does not come around a lot. So I don’t want you to absolutely just dismiss it. And that’s really what partnership is, if you're both open to finding a solution so both of you feel like you're being honored. If faith is really important to you and it’s a deal breaker to either of you, it might be time to move on.