America's Love Experts Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal answer a viewer who wants to know how to tell her husband she wants a divorce.
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Matt: Hey guys, Matt and Tamsen here with Ask Your Tango answering your love questions. Tamsen: Okay today’s question, how do I tell him it’s over. I’ve come to the decision that my marriage is doomed and I want to end it. My husband’s been severely depressed and battling alcoholism. He’ll be devastated but I have to get my life in control. How should I tell him? Well first of all know that you are making a very courageous decision because it’s not easy. Matt: Honestly, I think staying in the marriage and being there as a support or pillar is actually enabling him to have the bad habits that he has. So if you are willing to make this change, Tamsen I think you’re wonderful in doing so and you’re going to help yourself and you are going to help your husband and that all that has to go through your mind when you go to this difficult time. You got to do it, be strong and you’re heading the right direction. Tamsen: Yeah, absolutely and you’re right. You do have to get your own life in control because you have a life too. And I’m sorry that he’s going through a depression alcoholism. But the truth is that you have to think about yourself as well in your well-being health wise. Matt: And maybe you’re leaving him or make him up and clear his problems and clear his head and let him understand and realize what he’s really losing and what he’s lost and you might have the better life or you will have a better life if you do leave him but again, be very strong. Make sure that he understands exactly what you are doing and why. Tamsen: All right, this is the Matt and Tamsen for YourTango.com Matt: Got a question you’d like answered? Tamsen: Visit YourTango.com/pleasures