Communication during sex is often mentioned in magazines and made to sound easy. But it's not. You've got to figure out the timing, the language, and what to reveal. Listen in as the ladies discuss letting your partner know what works and what you...
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Juicy Talk for Women Cherry TV.com Cherry Dish It all comes down to communication but easier said than done. Listen to what the women have to say. Female 1: That can be scary, they’re like being creative and be vocal and try new things with new partners and– Female 2: It seems like, I mean with my current partner, it’s really pleasant and stuff but I–and I’m the type of person where I’m more submissive in–during sex and I kind of want–like I kind of want them to be more like, “Okay, let’s do this, let’s do this” and like it’s really hard for me to like–I mean although I like missionary, I like changing up a little bit too but I’m really, I don’t know, shy about like, “Okay, let’s do doggie style.” Like how do you get someone to just like, turn you around like–it’s so challenging and I guess like I haven’t really figured out an answer for that question. Female 3: My–even though I’ve had a limited amount of sex partners. I haven’t been with that many people, I’ve been with like 3 girls and 2 guys. I’ve always been the more sexually adventurous of all with my partners. And I don’t know what that says about me, if I may be more attracted to people whom are more traditional. But my boyfriend, we’ve been together for 7 years and he’s more conservative so I like to try some pretty freaky things sometimes because you know being with someone for a long period of time you try and get creative. And he’s not hung up at all. He’s willing to try stuff but it does take the conversation, it does take like really being able to put them into–put the penis and vagina into a sentence and try to explain how that orgasm feels or why I want your finger up my ass. Like I think that–I think that that’s a conversation that people who are in monogamous relationships really have to breach in order to understand each other. Female 1: And I think you have to push pass your comfort zone and like, “Okay, this is going to be awkward, this is going to feel uncomfortable.” Acknowledge that and do it anyway. You know I mean like to talking about it, you know talk. Because it is just so easy to just not talk about it, you know and then you just do what you’ve always done. Female 4: Yes, because there’s such vulnerability there, I mean I think that’s what it comes down to saying something to someone in that context is making ourselves completely vulnerable to them and also we’re threading on this territory of ego and men feeling vulnerable and not wanting them to feel in this place where we’re so open that we’re like insulting them in what they’re doing because that’s the other thing about not wanting to vocalize what I want is because I don’t want to make him feel like he’s not doing a good job. So, I’ve had that before to and I’ve had the opposite. You know, really depends but there’s– Stephanie: Yes, I agree completely. Because mine like, my partner now he’s really traditional and sometimes like I feel like I’m going to but I don’t want have to be insulted or feel bad if I want to do something new so it’s kind of hard because my main goal too is to please him but I wanted to be pleased too. So it’s kind of like, I have to find that balance and– Female 2: It’s also harder when you, you haven’t been seeing someone for very long, we were sexually active with them to sort of be more vocal and– Female 3: Create that intimacy? Female 2: Yes, and you don’t want to scare him away by like getting too close to them like that. And you know, but then like you–when you do have these conversations you're like, “That wasn’t that big of a deal” and like, if I want to you know evolve sexually with this person like if there is a movement to that then it’s important to have these conversations. Female 3: And to respect people’s boundaries. Like my boyfriend will not let me stimulate his prostate, he just won’t. I mean, there’s like, you know I’ve tried, I mean I know, I’ve seen a man orgasm with a stimulated prostate and I’m like, “I really want to do this for you” and he just

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