Dan and Jenn discuss role playing fetishes and how to introduce them to your partner.
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Jennifer: Dear, Dan and Jennifer fantasize about being a prostitute having sex with strangers and being naughty. You love that word naughty. Dan: Oh! Yeah naughty girls. Guys hold on, it's not what it seems. Hold on. Jennifer: Having to do what the other person wants and even getting paid for it. I am looking for ways to incorporate this fantasy into my sex life with my husband, but I don't think he is very comfortable with the idea of being the dominant partner. Dan: Keyword. Jennifer: Should I workout the whole scenario and maybe give him like a gift or is it better to ease him to something like that? How can I go about it so that I don't feel embraced about it and my husband will find it hot. Thanks for the advise, Alice. Dan: Alice is very bad, bad, bad girl. Jennifer: Bad girl. Dan: I love bad girls. Oh! Man I may need a break again. Okay. Jennifer: Okay look we all have our kinks. Dan: And it's all good. Jennifer: There is nothing wrong except for if you haven't seen the donkey video you will and that what's our box, okay, a consenting adults. Dan: Not animals, not children who are unable of giving informal consent. Jennifer: Their brain just don't work. So consenting adults have fun. So don't feel weird about it. I think your fantasy is hot. That's just my opinion obviously Dan does too. That's our box we are comfortable with that kind of stuff. It's okay. Dan: But I think that there is something underneath there is she is very tied into the prostitute thing, because that's her perception but I think she will discover some interesting thing when she realize it. Jennifer: She has to be a dirty girl. Dan: She has to be a bad dirty girl. Man! I may need a break, but really what she is talking about is a what that the natural submission for that or what naturally submissive? Jennifer: I think you were saying submissively inclined. Is that the word? Dan: The she maybe submissively inclined and she is looking for dominant partner in their relationship. Jennifer: Well, she has got a partner. Dan: Yeah, she is looking for someone to fill that role. She is hoping, if he will, but this is one of those things and talk about sexual compatibility is the guy dominantly inclined I guess that's a word and is he inclined that way, because you can't have two submissive people together. Jennifer: No, you can't. Dan: But you can have lots of things, but it's not like the partnership. Jennifer: That's where you got to start thinking about part time help. Dan: Outsourcing. Jennifer: Outsourcing. Dan: Anyway. Jennifer: So, here is the thing you got to take it slow with them I don't like the idea of just dropping this on him, if he doesn't know anything about it. Dan: That's not the most better. Jennifer: If he has never indicated that he has fantasy of you being a prostitute or you being submissive to him then you could make both of you feel awkward and uncomfortable. So the first thing I would do is kind of hint around that, and hint around. What you think? Dan: I think you can ease him to so many these thing like the guy with the shoe fetish and the guy with the cross dressing whatever. You don't want to have a sit down talk with your partner about this, because we are all too immature as a society to do stuff like that. Jennifer: But maybe you know you could hint around, hey! I am your bad girl or something like that and see if he takes it. Dan: See how receipted he is to the concept of you being more submissive -- Jennifer: Then he would like to see you crawl across the floor. I mean just -- sorry -- just little things. They come along the submissive angle, things that he might like right to feel his temperature per se. Dan: And as for finding the things that you will enjoy pursue the submission thing, pursue the BDSM stuff and just do some reading around and you will find some interesting things. Jennifer: Then you can try some role-play and share, you can share this fantasy with him. There is nothing wrong Dan and I have this