The reality of the booty call, friends with benefits discussed. Can you handle the "impersonal" factor or external pressures? Is there satisfaction in a one night stand or sex without a relationship?
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In this episode the women discuss casual sex. Female 1: Again we also talk of bringing up expectations because I feel like that has a really dangerous place. You have to know what you want and be really fucking honest about what you want from that and honest with yourself about what they want from that. And if its great sex and that’s all it is then don’t act like its something else and if you want something else and you're just still having sex and pretending like its friends with benefits, like you need to stop because you're going to -- Female 2: And you need to be true with yourself about what -- how sex affects you because I've had those experiences where I've been like, “Look, I'm not in a relation -- I'm not open for a relationship. We can hang out. We can have sex but you have to know.” And I've been totally honest but in retrospect, its still fucks me. Emotionally, I still was in a relationship. I still was affected by -- you are in some kind of a relationship. If it’s a casual sex thing, its still -- Female 3: I find that even if I don’t have a sense of the future, like I want to build a future with this person on a monogamous way, I still find I'm hurt if it’s not a monogamous casual thing. Like if they're being casual to eight other people, nobody wants to be part of a roster. You know, you start feeling a little -- Female 1: I feel like I tried -- I've acted as though I were a casual sex kind of person for a very long time and I was the champion of casual sex. It’s just of course the first mark of something to prove. And then once I've figured out that that’s just wasn’t for me that I didn’t have good sex with people casually, it was a tremendous relief because as I was acting that way, I felt like there's something wrong with me because I wasn’t getting so much pleasure out of it and then I just realized like, I'm just not that kind of girl. Female 3: Women are -- there are a lot of pressure to get laid all the time. And if you're not with a boyfriend or husband just to get laid and sometimes that works out and sometimes you're doing it because of their expectations. Sometimes you're doing it -- Female 4: Sometimes it gets really messy. Female 2: Women gets a lot of pressure to get laid all the time. There was like this pressure in our culture like, “Well, who are you with?” Or, “Are you having sex?” And its like, “Well, maybe not this week and maybe not for a month, and who cares.” There's other things that are -- Female 5: With the honesty I think is very important and to get to a point where you can be honest with yourself about what you want from a partner, from a sexual situation, from a dynamic interrelationship, how it affects you? That takes a lot of time to get to a point where you realize it’s valuable. It really means a lot to know where I stand. Female 4: Not to mention you owe it to your self. It’s like I've been in that situation and I've been like, “I'm tired of this shit. Either you're going to ride or going to do this or I'm out.” And I'm not doing the whole like, “Well, maybe, like if I know what's going on from the both of us.” Female 1: And then it’s the -- your sex life and the good sex that you could be having is contingent upon that. Like absolutely -- once I started really having good sex like really, really having good sex and figured out like where I stand in terms of what I need emotionally from a partner in order to have good sex. It’s great, there's no holding back from that. There really isn’t, you know. I couldn’t go back this sex that I was having before I figured out how to ask for what I need or what was okay with me and what wasn’t. You know, because I like getting off --

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