Dr. Hands discusses some useful tips in handling children who throw tantrums at home or school.
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How to Deal with Temper Tantrums in Children The next thing we’re going to talk about is temper tantrums. Temper tantrums can be divided into normal tantrums and problem tantrums. They are obviously inevitable. Tantrums occur when the emotions exceed the child’s ability to control them. Toddlers proved are prone to have cancers because they have strong drives to master and have autonomous -- and autonomy over frustrations. Normal tantrums are not prevented entirely but you can minimize it. At the first sign of your infant being willful, and at usually about one year of age, parents can be taught how to reduce the conflicts over their autonomy and mastery, and therefore promote opportunities for constructive exercise so that these wild tantrums don’t occur. They do -- child proofing the home is one thing. Using distraction obviously is another. To present choices within acceptable limits is certainly another approach. Picking battles is very important. Do not delude out your effectiveness as a parent by battling the infant constantly over everything. Choose the important events and battle them in this area. Therefore, you will be more respected, and your discipline will be more successful. When preschool children throw tantrums, stay within the child’s side but carry on normal activities, you don’t talk to them. Some preschoolers used to be -- need to be held in order to regain control but most you can just do your normal activities and ignore. The older child, the rule here, he must go to his room for what you may call time out. You must do it to settle down from the tantrum. When the tantrum occurs, you tell him to leave but do not lecture, threaten or argue with him. Simply, he must leave and develop self control. Never let the child obviously hurt himself. Other control, instead of a bad child, praise the child’s ability when he regains control after a tantrum rather than punish him when he’s having the tantrum, he’s a bad child. After the tantrum’s over, clean slide. Original demands the child had can never be fulfilled but these are clean slide. In positive reinforcement in the household for good things will reduce the number of tantrums. Problem tantrums are different. Most tantrums therefore reflect develop mentally inevitable conflicts but some are symptoms of more serious problem. Red flags that a temper tantrum is more serious and more indicative of a problem. This is when the child is greater than four years of age or is younger than one, one to four being the normal period for tantrums. Tantrums that occur regularly in school often with academic troubles obviously are not acceptable. Reports of intense anger, sadness or helplessness, and the child volunteers absolutely nothing positive about himself, is often a red flag that these tantrums indicate strong emotional problems in the child. Any aggressive or violent behavior associated with the tantrums also associated with major psychiatric problem, a history of other concerns, sleep disorders, food refusal, extreme difficulty with separation, pervasive behavior problem, these associate with temper tantrums change the whole aspect from normal benign tantrums into associated red flags for major medical problems or problem tantrums. If the child displays a usual flirtations or extreme modesty either which suggests possible sexual abuse is another indication that the caregiver may be concerned that these tantrums are both red flags to problems and maybe the child is sexually abused could be an underlying cause for these tantrums. So when problem tantrum is often the underlying condition like all than the conditions can be parent factors. Parent factors are depression or overwhelming lack of support from a parent, substance abuse at home from a parent, over or under controlling of the child by the parent, domestic violence, and we’ve already mentioned physical or sexual abuse. Child factors often seen when the child has speech del