Sometimes you're ready for sex, and then you both realize how much he's had to drink. The Cherry TV women talk about their experiences, their reactions and provide advice.
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Here, the women discuss situations in which their male partner can’t get it up. Participant: Recently I had to put myself in a resolution because I’m in a bit of a limp dick rush. I’m no longer going to fuck anybody after four o’clock in the morning. Participant: Good call. Participant: It’s too much of a gamble. Participant: And like you're probably not going to have good sex after four in the morning. I’d rather someone come over in the afternoon. Participant: Now, let me ask though, with the limp dick incidences or does it tend to more having that they're going soft or it just doesn’t really even get hard to begin with? Participant: It goes both ways I think. Definitely goes both ways but when it’s soft to begin with, that’s the worst because you could always fix it or get it in there. You can’t even get it in. Participant: Yeah! That doesn’t work. Participant: And you're just folding it up and wearing it in. Participant: Sort of want to be sympathetic, I mean, help them— Participant: Sure, like I know, you're annoyed, I’m annoyed and maybe not, I try to be sympathetic but my natural instinct is like, are you fucking serious like—but you try and you know its obviously awkward enough for the guy, its awkward for you too because you thought you were getting some and now you're not and so, you know, but a certain point you're like, this is just not going to work and what's, I’m going to kill myself, I'm not going to kill you or your poor— Participant: Well, there's a difference when it’s your boyfriend or when it’s a drunken one. I'm willing to invest a little more compassion and effort into a boyfriend than I am into a one night stand. Participant: Sure because then you have to live with that person’s ego. Participant: And you want to develop – it happens, you know, because sometimes limp dick happens when you're not drunk. And then it’s like the delicate juggle of not only the penis but the penis’ feelings you know. Participant: Well, that’s usually why it’s limp, its usually anxiety that they're having it. Its not when you're seeing people our age, its generally not a physical problem, its usually because they have anxiety and if you're mean about it, its going to be make it worse. It’s really going to go limp. Participant: If you're kind of more like, well, it doesn’t matter, you know, then it’s going to probably pop right back up. Participant: Now, let me ask and also you were saying like there are definitely techniques that you want to develop or do if it is a limp dick. Participant: Right! Okay, well, in the limp dick situation, limp dicks, first of all, we have to learn how to like put my own feelings aside because its not about you, its like 99.9999% of the time, its not about you, its not because your tits aren’t big enough or small enough or whatever. And so it took me sometime to be able to put that aside and be like, okay you, what are we going to do about this and I actually find that cuddling sort of taking the pressure of and saying, okay, what else can we do, like, if you focus on it, you know performing, its anxiety just heightens. So maybe if you cuddle for a while or say, oh let just go to sleep. I find it like you said, when you take it off, the symptom of them thinking too much or trying to plot out what's going to happen and once you take off that pressure, it’ll spring back up again. I mean, and then, you know, in the beginning in my early limp dick experiences, I definitely tried to like—which is sort of like getting— Participant: I am making it worse. Participant: Sometimes, the word, the younger they are, the more that sort of works, if it’s a more a head thing, its not going to really you know. Participant: It’s better to be like watch all three Lord of Rings, you know. Participant: Sometimes, like I have given my guy, I start to give a blowjob after he is soft and that will get him to become hard and if he doesn’t its like, maybe he is just, you know, like girls, like sometimes are not in the mo