Sometimes it comes from within, other times, from our partner. Regardless of where it comes from, many of us have experienced pressure to orgasm.
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Has the need to orgasm ever stressed you out? Here is what the women have to say about the pressure to come. Female 1: Now, has anyone been in the position though that they’ve kind of felt pressured to have an orgasm? Female 2: Well, it works against you. And you're just like, come, coming. Female 3: That I'm like, I got to do, I got to do it. Female 4: And now I'm not in a relationship but I'm you know, occasionally having sex with people that I have not relationships with so it’s like this pressure to, “I want to have a really good time because I'm making an effort to not masturbate and to actually have sex with a partner.” And in want them to have a good time and I would like to have that experience of coming together so there is that sense of like, alright, I have to do this, you go and I know that I have to be directed and then again its like–it takes away all organic natural sense of sexuality out of a–kind of so when you're too focused on it. But then there are also times when you know that somebody else really wants you. So if they–like they’ll like say it like, “I've been in situations that were great.” Female 3: I’m waiting for you. I really want to make to come and then sometimes I'm like–well, its not going to happen tonight so just go right ahead. That was like, you know, just come and then you can hold afterwards for 20 minutes and then you're free to go. You know, I’ll take that. That will be the compromise. Next time I have to come but for tonight just cuddle me inside. Female 5: Right, I agree minus the 20 minutes involved. Female 6: Now, there are guys who refuse to take like its not going to happen for an answer. Look, I dated this one guy who literally–we’re having sex for 3 and a half hours. You know and after like an hour, I'm like this–like, just go, its fine, like its four am, like I want to go to bed. He just would not do it like–I'm not coming until you're coming. Female 1: And he held off for 3 and a half hour. Female 6: Oh, yeah, and I'm just like–look, you feel like sandpaper. Like I'm not–this isn’t going to happen. Like this hurts and I can’t walk–you know, it was awful, that it was just like we’d not–for the life of him, like could not, like take no for an answer, like he was way too frightful. Female 5: It stops being impressive after he’d held 40 minutes. Female 6: Right, I mean, there's something–a cap like 30 minutes, 40 minutes like– Female 3: Fine. Female 6: You’ve done your duty, let it go.