Ereka Vetrini and her friends discuss the issue of flirting, and whether there is still room for flirting within a relationship.
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Erika: Welcome to Erika’s girl talk. The topic today Ladies is Flirting some of us as good at it, some of us are not good at it we’ll find out. The question is though “Is it okay if you're so in married or in a long term relationship is it okay to still flirt?” Participant: Absolutely. Female: It's healthy Erika: — Female: Well it is a confidence booster when you flirt and you get that little wink in the eye and then you go home and say guess what's happened to me today that’s always fun. And I like when my husband flirts when he is shopping for me. Because then he gets the actual little benefit and bring them home to me, so it’s a win-win. Erika: You know it is, it could be that when you're pregnant and someone flirt with you no, no, no I've not portable now don’t be looking in here. Female: So much of a side guy. Erika: All right I want to hear your opinion Lana is that okay. Female: Its makes you, exactly like E-Jay said it makes you feel good someone else is interested and there's I mean too much jealousy in a relationship is terrible but a little bit of jealousy is nice, its nice for someone to say my girl still got it or my guy still got it or whatever it is, its natural and its normal and it feels good. Female: I agree, I am more attracted to my boyfriend when I see a girl looking at him and he looks back and it was again, it’s a confidence thing if you're confident with the person then you don’t have issue. But a little bit too much can make you a little crazy. Erika: Tory, tell me your thoughts because okay, yeah, okay we all want to say its great, its all flirting yeah, yeah. But when do we draw the line, I mean I'm going to be honest. Female: I think its cute if I might go into the you know star bucks and like seeing my down and he flirts with me or you know and maybe my boyfriend will like to say, yes, and hell like you know, you were like “Oh, look at that I saw looking at you.” But it was like constant and the women is always like flirting with him every time we go somewhere and it get to me, like a little more, like “Oh, my God” don’t pay attention. Erika: But its sort of a challenge to though, how you could handle that. My concern is more and my husband is pretty good at this. He’s not obvious about it, I have been around people though who are very obvious about the way they flirt in front of their significant to other and I thought that’s just an unacceptable, what do you guys think. Participants: Yeah. Erika: Yeah, yeah, so what's the line have you ever ran out of these experiences. Female: You know the line and he knows the line. If you don’t know how to look—I think those boundaries have already been established and if they haven't been, they need to be. Erika: Well that’s the scary part though because if you find this man who cheated, I didn’t mean for it to happen. Which and you never mean for it to happen, it starts with something as stupid as like and a flirt that happened to one to many times. Maybe at the work force or on Facebook I mean that’s what my fear is what if we you know, when would you nip in the butt, when you nip in the butt. Female: You don’t start it. Erika: There we go, I think that’s it. Female: You know your line and E-jay says. Erika: Well that’s in all the time we have for today, can't wait until next time.