In this video we discuss the topic if fertility, and two women tell their experiences on how they dealt with fertility problems.
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Emma Howard: Hello and welcome to Baby Talk. I am Emma Howard, coming up on today’s show we will be talking about fertility problems with Relate Counselor Christine Northam and discussing a new book entitled How to Get Pregnant with its Author Harriet Griffin. But first, I am please to say that I am joined on the sofa by Chris Smith and Kim Richards. Now both these women have had different experiences of trying to conceive using IVF. Hello to you both! Chris Smith: Hello! Kim Richards: Hello! Emma Howard: Thanks for coming. Now Kim, I have got to say sitting here with a gorgeous four year-old Joe hello! The happy result of IVF, but it took you a long time, what’s your story? Kim Richards: Well I was about 18 and just always wanted to a mom but I was also probably very coward and didn’t like doctors or nurses or hospitals. Emma Howard: Not many people do. Kim Richards: But I was a really big coward and I just kept them off, I went a few times but then start off test, but then canceled it, because then I check them down. Emma Howard: Now let me just say because people who are hearing will be wondering. You are 44 now and you had Joe, just 39 going into 40. So when you were not so young, how long did you try for it before you felt, something isn’t right here? Kim Richards: Well from fist off we just tried and I just with hope, I have done so many pregnancy test thinking--I have always had irregular periods anyway so that was-- Emma Howard: That was the sign of something could be wrong. So after how many years, did you think, we need to get some more help? Kim Richards: I went to see a doctor, a couple of years after I have been married, because of the fact I have had irregular periods when I was at school and I was told that because of my age and when I will get married it will sought itself and-- Emma Howard: Really. Kim Richards: Could figure that one out but I was so far f**ked up if you know I mean. I just almost got used to it by then and then I was told I had a hormone imbalance but then that was it nothing else, and so then when I got married, we just so far tried to, first off we just about--we wanted to started a family and then nothing happened and I just--we just said you know one day--and so I have mentioned a couple of times--just after a couple of years and that was when they kept sending me for tests and referring me to the hospital and things and then I would go for the consultation and then when it’s over they wanted to do more invasive tests, that soon were taken out. Emma Howard: And you have cancelled. Kim Richards: Yeah. So which I would kick myself for now, but then after we have been married, about 14-15 years, we had parted, we had separation for nine months and then we got back together and after telling everybody else it happens, it happens, it doesn’t, it doesn’t, it didn’t bother me, and what did bother me was that we got parted. Emma Howard: And of course when you have been into 18, everyone is then expecting you to have a little Joe. Would you like to do some coloring yes Joe, we are talking about how you came along, oh look at that! Will you color those in for a moment? Let’s do a picture for a moment. Did you find that hard, everyone thinking you would be made along [Voice Overlap] Kim Richards: Well the thing is when we got together, we were going out since 6 months, then we just finally went out until we got married, because everyone said, you are into the baby Joe, quite a long time, but in and all, everybody just so the reason we got married so -- Emma Howard: Then you say that you kicked yourself and you are forcing forward now, when did the serious treatment start then for you? Kim Richards: I was referred to in 1997, and to say that I have been referred there and that I couldn’t take anymore for that year, and funding was short and that they would say to me, the following year. Emma Howard: Because this was something we should say for you, was never going to be a private option for you real