Men tend to overlook this critical step. If she is not relaxed before sex, there's very little hope that she'll ever reach an orgasm.
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Dan: Today on Ask Dan and Jennifer, female orgasm tip number 1 of 25. Yes, there’s a lot female orgasm goodness coming our way. So today’s tip, relaxation, stay tuned to find out why it’s crucial. Ask Dan & Jennifer Sex, Love & Dating Advice Extreme Sex Ed What’s your Question? And Please Rate our Show Give us 5 Stars! What’s your Orgasm I Q? WWW.ORGASMQUIZ.COM Jennifer: Guys, here’s the deal, a woman needs to be completely relaxed, both physically and mentally to have an orgasm. If she’s stressed, if she’s thinking about work, if she’s thinking about the kids, got to grocery shopping, didn’t get this done, didn’t get that done, guess what? There’s no way she’s going to have an orgasm and she’s probably won’t even want to have sex with you. So I mean you have got to get her relaxed, it’s critical. Dan: Yup. The only tension and this is your challenge, the only tension she should be feeling is sexual attention. Which means that you, got to help her smooth out all the other tension if you want her to be experiencing that magical orgasm with you. We have for you today, a 3 step formula to how to get her relaxed. 3 steps are good. Jennifer: 3 steps, anybody can do 3 steps right? Dan: And you want her relaxed, I know you do. Jennifer: Okay so, step one, you’ve got to set the stage okay. Guys, I say this all the time, girls are not light switches. You can’t say, “Okay, let’s have sex.” Dan: She does say that all the time. Jennifer: That is a guaranteed way to get a no, just ask Dan. Dan: I thought we weren’t talking— Jennifer: Girls need warm up okay and we like to have games. Dan: Like a skillet. Jennifer: Especially sexual things, introduce slowly. So, you know, have the bedroom waiting and ready. You know, take some time to make it nice, if you’re— Dan: Before she gets home from work for example right. Jennifer: If you’re just dating pick your dirty socks up off the floor, even if you’re married. Okay, pick your clothes, put your shoes away. Dan: I’m going to say, your marriage doesn’t matter? Jennifer: Yes! And you know maybe light some candles, burn some incense, you know, dim the lights. Nice and soothing, sensual and then when she gets home, greet her, “I’m really happy to see you today”, right. And kind of lead her into the bedroom, introduce it because she’s going to see that, “Oh, something’s up”, right. But here’s the catch— Dan: He wants something. Jennifer: When she sees this, her guard may go up. So, now what should we do? Dan: It’s like you can’t you win. It’s like you can’t win. Jennifer: You want to take a bath or shower together to help get her relaxed. Dan: Bath or shower together and this can sort of go either way, depends on what you want. A shower is obviously quicker, a bath is going to be a little more intimate, a little longer, a little more soothing, now remember you don’t want her to put to sleep with this, right? Relax, relax and she’s snoring, no good. You’re doing it by yourself again, no good. Okay, 2, two reasons for the shower bath together. One, relaxation, you want to relax her and it’s a mental transition point from her whole day into a sexy, sex filled orgasm filled evening right. Jennifer: Yes, remember that. Women need that transition. Dan: Exactly, so think of it. The key thing is we have the mental transition. Two, cleanliness, you know, girls like to—you know that you don’t have to be so self-conscious, “Oh! I might smell funny from the long day”, right. Jennifer: Yes its July, excuse me, June, almost July here and trust me, you walk to the car and back and you get a little sweaty, so yes. Dan: Or a lot, indoors. Jennifer: So after you’ve taken a nice bath or a shower and she’s relaxed but not sleepy, the next thing you want to do, see this helps to get her mentally ready for sex. Now you want to get her physically ready for sex and the best way to do that guys is with the sensual massage. Okay remember, this is a sensual massage, it’s not a “put her to sleep massage”. An