Lorraine shares if she is fearful about her HIV diagnosis and if she is taking steps to combat this.
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I don’t think I have a whole lot of fear now. Probably in the beginning there was a lot of fear and it wasn’t so much just the fear that I had in myself but the fear of just the unknown, not really knowing what HIV was doing inside of me. There would be times I looked in a mirro, and I would sit there and say, “Wow, there’s something in there doing something and I don’t even know what it looks like.” Or the fear of dying, the fear of what people would think of HIV and how they would reject you. And I think that probably has a lot of fear for a lot of people. For me today, I can say that my fear is not so much of death because I feel like this is not what’s going to kill me. I really believe that I am going to outlive HIV because I don’t think about living with HIV daily. I think about just living. I will say that there maybe times when there is fear of me telling someone I have HIV and that usually is more when it comes to—for more personal reasons, if it comes to dating and stuff like that. But one thing that I can tell you that I have done to help with that fear is I told myself that if I am upfront in the beginning before I invest feelings in individuals, then even if they reject me, at least it won’t feel as bad because it wasn’t someone that I really cared about in the first place. So, if you get that out of the way, it kind of takes less of that intimidation away from you. So, I don’t really live with the fear anymore. I mean I just live. I mean, I try to live each day to the fullest. I start off my day working out knowing that, you know, hey, I am going to live to be 100 so I need to have a strong heart. I need to be fit, you know, so, and I just think of myself as doing all the normal things of someone that would do that isn’t HIV positive.