Sexual health expert Dr. Catherine Hood answers a question on how long should a man spend on foreplay in the company of Emma Howard.
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Emma Howard: Hello! We're answering questions on sexual health. I'm joined by Dr. Catherine Hood. Hello Catherine! Dr. Catherine Hood: Hello! Emma Howard: I've got a question here from a young man, I think, he's a young man, he says that his girlfriend often complains that I don't spend enough time on foreplay. He wants to know, I think, this is a lovely question, he says, how long is long enough and how do I find her G-spot? Dr. Catherine Hood: Well, long enough is whatever she wants, frankly, and the reality is, it does take women a lot longer to get sexually aroused than men. Also, women get very easily distracted. So during sex, you can be feeling very sexually excited woman and in the next minute, you're thinking about shopping. So yeah, really in terms of foreplay, it is about getting women aroused enough so that they can reach climax as well as you, because it's a little bit more straightforward with men. Most women will require anything between 10 minutes and 20 minutes, but you know what, it really depends on the circumstances. If they're a bit stressed, a bit tired, it can take a lot longer. Emma Howard: I think, he is a little confused about what the G-spot is and where it is as well. Dr. Catherine Hood: Yeah, the G-spot, now that's a very sensitive spot. Now, there's a lot of debate whether it did or didn't exist, but I think most people accept that there is a very sensitive area on the interior wall of the vagina. So that's just inside up at the front, it's about sort of 2 inches inside, roughly, it varies from women to women. This is an area that is particularly sensitive to stimulation. Now when you're having sex, there are certain sexual positions that hit that spot much more than others. So, for example, sort of having sex doggy style or from behind, that will tend to knock the G-spot more, and so, that will tend to help women to get towards orgasm much quicker and increase arousal and excitement. Emma Howard: So they must be talking to each other to kind of find all of those pretty easily. Dr. Catherine Hood: Well exactly, it does vary with each woman and the amount of foreplay a woman loves, the type of foreplay vary. So it's really important with all new partners that you find out what they like, and you find out and you're constantly communicating with each other, and that doesn't mean necessarily talking, it's about body movements, it's about you're letting them know when you're interested or excited or when something has worked or when something hasn't. Emma Howard: Learning to read each other well. Dr. Catherine Hood: Exactly. Emma Howard: Thank you very much talking about as usual. Well, if you have a similar problem, we hope we might have given you some help, but remember, it's always best to go and see your own doctor for medical advice. Thanks for watching, we'll be back with more health questions and answers.