Sex Therapist, Marriage Counselor and author Dr. Marty Klein explains an exercise you can do to increase your sexual pleasure.
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www.EmpowHer.com EmpowHer asks: What is the sensate focus exercise? Sex therapist and psychologist and physicians and nurses and other clinicians, we have many tools at our disposal to help us help people with sexual difficulties. One of the tools that was developed by Masters and Johnson back in the early 70’s was, a set of exercises called Sensate Focus. And those are exercises in which people learn to focus on sensation. And those exercises are great under the right conditions. But like all exercises, they’re limited in their usefulness according to the problems that people have and the circumstances. So if you use those exercises too early in the treatment for example, it won’t work out very well. So what those exercises do is, they help people focus on what’s going on their sensory apparatus, their hands, their mouths and so on. And what those exercises do is, they help people focus on their sensory apparatus, their hands, their mouths, their eyes and so on. Unfortunately, most people during sex, they’re not focusing on how the sex actually feels. They’re focusing on, I hope my belly isn’t hanging out, I hope my mother doesn’t come up the stairs, I hope I last long enough so that she has an orgasm and I hope my hand doesn’t get tired before he ejaculates. You know, all that kind of stuff. So what the Sensate Focus exercises are designed to do if they’re assigned properly, is to help people focus, to help people focus on sensation rather than distract themselves with all kinds of thoughts.