The Cherry TV women talk about casual sex and how it differs from intimacy in a relationship built on love.
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Listen in while the women discuss the differences between relationship sex and casual sex. Participant: There is playful. I can have a good orgasm and a playful fun exploratory sex, it is not. It can be great in its own way. It is a separate animal from the sex that I have with someone that I am deeply with and have it on the— Participant: I think that’s the difference with sex to making love. Participant: Yeah! I really think that and there's nothing wrong with—that they don’t have to be—they can both be in the same relationship and they cannot but not that one is better than the other. I mean, I think, I would probably choose making love but I wouldn’t want to make love everyday. Participant: And you can’t get anymore because when you have it everyday, its you know— Participant: It loses its special intimacy. Participant: You know what's really different for me with the making love and just fucking is the afterwards. If you're in love, that’s what it feels really intense afterwards like we just had this incredible experience. Participant: That’s when it’s like he reach over and it’s like you— Participant: You in the same universe. Participant: Where is it, if you're fucking, you're like, alright. I want to go pee. Participant: You know, and then you get ready for work, whatever. Participant: That’s great. Participant: But I mean, bottom line is like, I wouldn’t be as good in the sack as I am now if I didn’t have all the practice that I had before. Participant: It’s true. Participant: And during the bad experiences. Participant: Absolutely. Participant: Including that virgin I deflowered. Including all of it, yeah, that was horrible. No, but I wouldn’t have as good of sex as I am having now if didn’t go through all of that other crop and— Participant: There's a lot of process of elimination. Participant: You have to learn what you don’t want, what you don’t like. Participant: But I guess it also goes back what we said at the beginning is that you need to have a certain level of confidence in order to go out and have all that sex and be able to say, I don’t need to get emotionally involved in order to be with this person and have a good time with this person. And that you have to build by yourself I think. Participant: You do but I think anyone you get involved with, you're emotionally involved. Participant: Yeah! Participant: Its there, you can never lie to your self and believe that there is no emotional connection. We’re human beings, we function a lot on emotion. So, you know, waling into a situation, oh, I'm just going to fuck and get it over with and that’s fine, that’s great but three days later somebody’s running through your head. And you really need to be honest about that and wherever you have that emotional realm with your partner, whether it’s a one night stand or we’re just going to be casual, or we’re falling in love. As long as you're both in the same place, there's potential for great sex. If you're coming out it at the same angle, it’s going to be great in that realm. Every realm has its own of a great but you just need to be on that same plane with each other which requires honesty, which requires confidence and communication. Participant: I also feel like a lot of people who have low self-esteem go out and have a buck load of sex. Participant: Sometimes a little early. Participant: Yeah! Participant: So, I mean, there's a—I think that there is a very fine line between being confident and having sex because I know that when I was younger I had low self-esteem sex and not I have confident in sex and I’d like to tell me myself that that’s normal. Participant: Yes! In my world, it’s also normal. Participant: You know, just because its like you have no idea what you're doing, and you don’t know if they really like you and there's just all of this other baggage crap that unfortunately a lot of women still go through but I feel like when you're younger, its worse in different ways. Participant: And you could al