Learn about the many differences between emotional and physical infidelity within a relationship, and how to cope with these behaviors.
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Welcome to another installment of MoreMojo or watchmojo.com, I am your host Tray Moore. So, what I am here to talk to you about today is the difference between physical and emotional cheating. So, we all know what the physical is. It's doing something with somebody that you shouldn't be doing. Right, okay fine. So, what's emotional cheating? Well, emotional cheating is essentially having emotions for someone that you shouldn't be having emotions for. Now believe it or not, it seems that emotional cheating is a bigger deal for woman than physical cheating is. But the flip side the coin is, men have more of a problem with physical cheating than emotional cheating. So how do we reconcile it, who's right and who's wrong? Well, I am going to tell you, it works this way. A relationship is about choices. You choose to be involved with someone and everyday you make that choice over and over and over again and that's the problem with physical cheating. It's a breach of that choice, it's a breach of the commitment because you stopped making the choice, and that's what the commitment is. The commitment is to keep making that choice no matter what happens. The emotional cheating is where things go a little bit into the gray area. Now, think about it, you don't have control over your emotions. That's what an emotion is. It's separate from your reason. Reason is about choosing, reason is about thinking things true. Emotions, they are rational by definition, you have no choice in the matter. So what happens when you find out that you don't have much emotional fidelity, well there is not much you can do about it, you can choose to act on it or you can choose not to act on it, that's where the trouble comes in. But I am warning you now guys, when it comes to emotional cheating, chances are, your woman is going to care more about that than the physical side. She might not forgive you for the physical, but from what I understand, there is a much better chance to forgive the physical cheating over the emotional cheating. Now here is the problem with this ladies, it does come down to a choice, and guys don't get to choose the way they feel. So sure, maybe they shouldn't be hanging around with that somebody but they can't help the way they feel. Now, of course, they can choose not to hang around people but let's face it, that's just not practical. You are going to go through life and you are going to meet people and chances are sooner or later you are going to develop feelings for that someone else. Now that doesn't necessarily have to be a problem, after all, we all have emotional needs on so many different levels that you can't ever expect one person to fill them all. The flip side of that coin is you can be so presumptuous and egocentric to assume that you are going to be able to be after someone's everything. Now I realize that is obviously the ideal, that's what we are striving for, it's what romantic comedies are based on, but we don't live in the movies, we live in real life. So what do you got to do when you catch your partner emotionally cheating? Well, simple, you caught them, you know it's there, it's going to be excruciating. Chances are it's going to be more excruciating and to find out that they have too much drink and made a bad decision along the way. Even for you guys, chances are, if you find out your woman has been emotionally cheating, you are probably not going to be as vivid as if she physical cheated, but you are probably going to be just as emotionally devastated. So, how do you deal with it, well stop, talk to them. Find out how this came to happen. Now, of course, once the cat is out of the bag, they are going to have to stop seeing that person, they are going to have stop being friends to that person. But it's really something you have to learn to forgive them on; don't forgive them for the physical cheating, that's cool, they made a bad choice, they stopped making a choice. That you can't let slide, if you don't w