In this video, a group of dads discuss how money becomes an important issue when having babies.
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Chris Brooks: It was always scary thing for me when Carla said she was pregnant. It was that -- the responsibility, the financial issue, it's like because all of a sudden I'm the Bread Winner and which luckily I was in a good job and the stress of that and when I first had a baby when I was 21, I wasn't working, I was trying to break into radio and I was doing a lot some - radio in monetary way and that was very scary, but even this time, even in a secured job you still find yourself worrying and thinking, what if this job doesn't work out, than what I'm going to do, and the panic that sets in. Damino Queva: I totally agree. It's a tremendous motivator because you can't line your levels basic - I mean you have to say hold on a second, whatever it takes extra hours or whatever else but that initial thought is I am really going to have to buckle down. I remember that that was a favorite line, particularly -- and forever sort of thing. It's not like not for like six months or something, it's like you know how long you're going to support child forward, 25 years. Kevin Day: I think with hindsight we really underestimated the potential financial problems. I mean it was something we talked about but initially -- my initial reaction was in a sense how expensive going to baby be? I mean that is it can't be that much. Is she breast feeding? So that's another we have to buy food first. Yeah it really didn't occur to me how -- the accumulated cost would be? It was - it cost me about three dollars. We had periods before and suddenly I'm been working for a couple of -- So we had some experience of it's allowed to rein ourselves in when money was -- it didn't occur to me (a) how much expensive a baby would be and (b) loosing one income for essentially two years. It was nightmare and then at 6 months you know it was really in because it will send out even -- I was in the situation where I couldn't turn down any work. So I was doing jobs, I wouldn't normally have done which was making me unhappy, which meant I was a -- longer than I wanted to be -- for anyway but had to do it because we needed the money. You know if you free lance you've got couple weeks for that money. It's very difficult. Chris Brooks: So you're taking gigs or jobs that you would normally wouldn't do. Kevin Day: Yeah, exactly. I mean it's the small gigs I wouldn't normally do, that people wouldn't even price for -- so presenting -- I wouldn't want to do, stuff that didn't fulfill me artistically which before I had the financial freedom so that I didn't need to do that. Now, you found yourself saying well I'll go, do it. I mean thank god for satellite TV at the time because it's keeping you the - but there were times when it's been free lances. It's fantastic in one sense because it means there is somebody home all the time, when Ed was a bit older, I don't see he realizes quite lucky eh was. Sometimes both parents are home during days, one of us is always around. But the financial strain, it was terrible because financial strain is one thing that really puts strain on the marriage anyway because you got a new baby and you both worried about money coming because it's also they're in - you know it's like you could do that as well, you might not get paid for it. So you're about to tell me if the money comes in it's gone to that anyway so it put an enormous stress on this and it's something that we really underestimated. It didn't occur to be that much of problem. Jonathan Wills: We see these before probably in newspapers would say that between the ages of 9 and 12 of your child because you're quarter of million. We can't possibly, can we? And actually right and it's for me it was with the nappies thing, was that it's a stupid thing, isn't it, but actually they if we just get rid of the nappies bill, we'll we're trying to getting out nappies about [Voice Overlap] Kevin Day: You're absolutely right. You've seen before and I used to think well that must be somebody who