In this Cherry TV video the women discuss their early sexual experiences.
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Early Sexual Relationships Female: In this clip women talk about developing their sexual identity. Female: I lost my virginity when I was like 17 and it wasn’t too good and just for a while I thought sex is really kind of bring out the best in matter of thought this is your Venus this is why you do it that women we’re taught you have a vagina you know instead of being like you have a clit and this and that and the clit is your main sexual organ. We’re taught that the birth canal is our main sexual organ so of course at least the confusion when you’re like 15 and you’re like my vagina is really not giving me that much pleasure. It’s more of like a pain in the ass because it’s something that bleeding— Female: Yes, it’s tampon older and you don’t know what really gives you pleasure and be great if—when you were 14 before that really if you were told more about your anatomy I mean I didn’t have parents who like let me down that road of learning. Female: I went from desperately wanting to be a bad girl and desperately fearing being a prude and kind of rejecting my catholic school upbringing to having a not consensual experience that was really scary and terrible to having a boyfriend who was actually really great. I had a relationship with someone my age too but as inexperienced as I was and who didn’t put a lot of pressure on. So we kind of discover it together, we thought we’re making stuff up and there was a real level of trust I knew he wasn’t going to hurt me on purpose and he was a genuinely nice guy. Peer relationships are so important in sex whether or not your friends are having sex, what kind of sex they’re having, what kind of experience is you’re hearing about. I was in the bleeding edge of my friends in high school to be having sex and maybe I wouldn’t have been so sexual so early and I haven’t have the experience when I was 15. But like none of my friends were doing it so it was something I didn’t really share with them .we didn’t really talked about it. It wasn’t like until I got to college that other women experienced of sex and hearing about that was tremendously important to my development. You know tremendously important to hear other women say girl I don’t want to this, that or the other thing and I told him no, and I won't let him do this and that was amazing to me. I’ve kind of negotiated it for myself with the guy but then to hear other women talk about it was incredible because that really didn’t happened in high school to me. I was kind of out there on my own on another plan.