Dr. Brotto shares her knowledge and gives some sexual advice for women.
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This is for all women, not necessarily women with disease or who are post-menopausal. This is a basic message to all women is, first of all, confront the myths that you carry around with you, and what you see in the media isn’t necessarily true. Some interesting data that we heard at this meeting, you know you see on American television all these flashy glamor signs of multi-orgasmic women who are climaxing the same times as their partners, but we find that American women are actually the least sexually satisfied among all the different countries of the world that were studied and report the most sexual difficulties. So, don’t believe the illusion of sexuality that you see on TV first of all, and you’ll save yourself a lot of unnecessary sexual grief. The second thing I think that’s important to keep in mind is to normalize your experience, if you go through periods of time when you’re not feeling particularly interested in the sex, don’t assume it’s a dysfunction. Take a look at your life and say, "Well, is this happening in the context of being stressed, or with other deadlines, or do I have kids at home." So we need to give ourselves permission for the times when sex isn’t great. There will be times when it’s fantastic and there’ll be times when it’s not good and there’ll be a lot of times where it’s mediocre, and we need to be okay with that. I think that the frequency of us labeling sexual disorders will go down if we start to do that.