A chat with the author of Babies For Beginners; a great book with loads of brilliant advice for new parents.
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Zoe Cummings: First time parents are inundated with advice on how to look after their new borns? Magazines, books, friends and families a room full of words of wisdom which often needs too information overload and she will worry about just exactly how they're going to manage. Roni Jay, Author of the no nonsense book, Babies for Beginners, and then for Mother and Baby magazine are here today to cut the crop and give you the advice you really need. Thanks very much for joining us here. Now Roni, why is it, the parents feel under such pressure? Roni Jay: Well, there is an enormous amount of information that comes with parents from all directions, from their own parents and they're in laws, from their friends, from big brothers and sisters who have done it before and from magazines, from television programs, and it's not the advice necessarily isn't good, but that is just so much of it, that they stop worrying about the real details very suddenly. It just, they go into overload and with all the sleeplessness and the stress that goes with having a new baby anyway and the feeling of responsibility. You just need to be worrying about whether you remember to wash the baby's hair before you put it in the bath or afterwards. The important thing is that you don't drown the baby, that really is the only important, if it comes out clean and they went in, it's a bonus, and you're doing fine as a parent, but it is all that massive information that comes to you that you just need to as you say, cut the crap and look over of what really matters. Zoe Cummings: Linda, what do you find that parents worry about the most and what are the top ten list of excruciating worries? Linda Standfield: There are so many. I think one of the big worries for new parents if they are going to drop their baby, we get lots of readers on the magazine who write and saying, am I going to drop my baby when I pick it up. That's a big one. Holding the baby properly, all they're going to be able to feed the baby. you know, obviously you only got two options on feeding that's the big concerns about breast feeding; oh should I book a feed, should I breast feed. There are so many worries. It's hard to sole pick a top ten to be honest with you, but obviously, being a parent is a whole new experience, its life changing, it's something that you've never done before, if you're having your first baby. So, lots of concerns going on. Zoe Cummings: Roni, the book takes a very amusing approach to getting these messages across to the readers. What is that you would say to, for example these concerns that Linda has raised? How would we approach those? Roni Jay: Well, it's really a matter of, I mean each exercise the book and we do start with exactly what Linda is talking about, you know that how to hold the baby, so that you don't drop it. The absolute basics the books cover. And with each one, then we look at the core objective, which is to bath the baby to make it clean and it was before for example, and then the key focus, which is the only thing that really, really matters, which is don't drown the baby or get some food inside it, or whatever it is that you're trying to do. and then, the core idea behind the book is that, that is really only thing that you need to worry about; the rest is all just a bonus, you know if you're pressing the baby and you do all the poppies up in the wrong order, it just doesn't matter, everybody ask for poppies up in wrong orders, well, that's completely impossible to get right into and to get a lot of practice. But it's just simply a matter of recognizing, if the baby's warm and comfortable, it doesn't matter, which poppy it is done with. Zoe Cummings: Why is it that we become so concerned with the strength details; rather than just focusing on these basic needs that a baby has? Linda Stanfield: I think there is so much information out there like when you were saying, and you do get a different piece of advice in every single person, you may, so you