Developing Sexual Technique for Women Video

More on the basics. Confidence and knowing what gets you off count for a lot, but what about tried and true sexual skills and technique? Here the Cherry TV women discuss sexual development, experimentation and the learning curve.
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Here, the women talk about how best to learn in bed. Female 1: He’d go and learn. He’d go and he’d buy books and he talks to people in sex shops. Female 2: You still have to be–like we were saying before, in tuned with that person. Female 1: Oh, absolutely. Female 2: I remember when I first started hooking up with guys, I did that whole thing and I was like, okay, how do you give a blowjob and I read–and I was like, okay this, as soon as I studied and then I was with this guy and I was doing all of it at the same time. The guy was like overwhelmed. He was so freaked out. So I was doing this, a few thing with the hand and the thing you would–put that thingy into this, into that and I just–I am laughing in retrospect because I wasn’t–I just was like so excited to apply my skill. Female 3: Yeah! I think that in terms of learning also, that is actually the instance in which sort of friendly stacks or the friendly fire can–has been really helpful for me because when I was younger I remember I had a best friend and it was a tragic to him. I was not in love with him but we would just experiment and it was something that I felt totally comfortable around and it was playful and– Female 2: Like you're making it up. Female 3: And that’s how I really figured out–Yeah! Exactly, where–we were just really young I just figured out like I–we were just like hanging around in our underwear, I mean like, how does that feel? Do you like that? What if I build my mouth there, too hard? And you know and like, why don’t you try this on me, you know, or like, oh, no, not the butt, you know, like, and I learned a lot of stuff that way. I really did. So I think it can be dangerous. You don’t want to like -- with your friends, you can you know seduce but if that happens, having a safe relationship where it doesn’t feel like there's a lot at stake can be a really good way to experiment with. Female 2: And you don’t have to be in love -- they have chemistry. Female 4: Right, absolutely, it’s true. And you don’t have to have a sense of future. I think girls get a lot of pressure on the one hand to get laid all the time and to be kind of sexually available and sexually skilled through promiscuity. On the other hand, to have sex with those only whom you love and with whom you might build a marriage. And I think its great to have those kind of intermediate relationships where you honestly have respect and desire for one another. And you know, you don’t put a lot of pressure on it about other things. It’s okay to just make it about the sex. It really is okay. And that can be a very great basis for a friendship even it can last beyond the sex. Female 3: Yeah! I definitely had relationships where I felt torn about that because I felt like, “I obviously do not want to spend the rest of life with this person and is it okay that I'm still with them because we have amazing sex.” And he laugh our asses off and I can fart in bed, you know. Should I break up with him because I know that I don’t want to be– Female 4: Right, free myself up with the perfect person? Female 3: And its like no, someone once said to me that every relationship prepares you for the next and its– Female 4: Like jobs. Female 3: And like–let’s face it, when I was 20, like few people are going to end forever with the person that they're sleeping with when they were 20, you know, and so it was just–if you can let it be what it is then it leaves you more energy to remain in the present that we’re talking about.

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