Can my spouse serve as my intermediary in dealing with their family?
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Host: Can my spouse serve as my intermediary dealing with their family? Speaker: This is sure a key point and I think the answer is yes and no. There is a rule for your spouse to play in taking a stand and say that certain types of abusive or disrespectful comments just are not acceptable. That’s based on directly with the spouse and relatives away from the in-laws so to speak. And there is a rule for that. But the bigger picture is that a relationship that I’m going to build with my in-laws is like all relationships going to have to be build one on one between me and the in-law. And I can’t rely on my wife to do it for me. So I’m going to think well about my wife’s relatives, I’m going to think strategically about it, I’m going to think how I can take leadership in this relationship. It’s in the end going to be between me and the person directly without my wife as a filter. And the way I’m going to do it is I’m going to create opportunities where I get to listen to that person talk. And I’m going to be even listen and that’s how I’m going to do with that.