How do I talked with my spouse about their family without upsetting them?
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Host: How do I talk with my spouse about their family without upsetting them? Speaker: Just ask to ask that question is a reminder that marriage is a real challenge. There is worthwhile challenge; it’s a key thing sort how do you interact with your spouse if you’re having trouble with their parents or they simply an so on. One part of it is neutral language the same comments the same criticism the same expression of difficulties can be expressed in a way that’s provocative or not. Depending on the choice of words, so for example if somebody says. You know you always do this or you never to this. Or your mother always does that, that’s going to be heard as provocative. And what it means is the content of what you’re going to say is not going to heard well. On the other can’t if you speak from your own perspective and in the trade people call this using eye messages. And if you say something like, I seldom your mother or whatever it is. It’s much a softer way to do it and therefore it will be more likely to be heard. I think it’s also helpful in talking with this spells about their mother, their father, their siblings which you as the spells find difficult to also keep track of the possible peace. With every human being on the planet there are strengths. And if the discussion difficulties can be combined with acknowledgement of what the strengths of the person who’s in a sense being criticized that can make it much easier. And the third thing is that if I go to talk to my wife about the difficulty that I’m having with one of their relative. If I can bring to that discussion and acknowledgment that I have my own personal- and maybe affecting how I see things that this maybe as much about my perceptions, whom I am and what I’ve experience in life. As it is about the relative of the person that I’m talking about. Well that’s going the conversation go better.