Colic is a common problem in infants, and can lead to long stretches of crying. Find out how to cope with colic and help soothe your baby.
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Female: Your healthy baby just keeps crying and crying. But when your baby has colic, it's not your fault and there is a way to make the crying stop. Harvey: People think of a crying baby as being a nuisance but it's so much more than a crying, crying can even kill. Crying can kill. Crying can lead to a disturbed relationship you have with your child because you think the baby doesn’t like you or the baby is angry at you. It can trigger postpartum depression. It can make a person so angry, they could injure their baby and cause shaken baby syndrome. So actually there are many, many serious problems that are triggered by crying. Female: So why won't your infant stop crying? Harvey: The real basis for why babies cry and why some cry so much is a concept called the fourth trimester that in a weird sort of a way or babies are born three months before they’re ready for the world. And they’re kind of like fetuses outside the uterus. Female: Colic usually starts around the second week of life and can last until your baby is three months old. It's a struggle Jordana been experienced first hand after the birth of her twins. Jordana: It was like a living nightmare. It was not fun, sweet, cute, pleasant, a dream fulfilled to be going through any of this. So, I'm expecting—of myself and over the experience before it was like so frenetic increases. Female: Not being able to sooth her crying baby girl, Jordana felt like a failure. Jordana: I felt very worthless and inadequate. You know even though I certainly know better, it's hard not to take it personally. So, I felt like I was failing and that was the worst thing that could happen to me because the most important thing to me in the world was to be a good mom and to be successful at it. Female: but it wasn’t until another mother sent her the book and DVD , the happiest baby on the block by Dr. Harvey Carp that Jordana was able to sooth her baby. Harvey: What I discovered is that babies are born with something called the calming reflex which is a virtual off switch for crying and on switch for sleep. And when parents learn how to turn on that reflex by doing what I call the five S which are five steps of imitating the baby’s life in the uterus. They literally within seconds can learn how to turn on their baby’s calming reflex and calm even colicky babies in seconds or minutes. Female: So what are the five Ss’? Harvey: The five Ss’ are swaddling which is not wrapping of the arms down. The side or stomach position, the back is the best position for sleep but the stomach is the best position for—babies. The third S is shushing which is a “shhh” but it's loud because inside, it's twice as loud as a vacuum cleaner. The fourth S is swinging or tiny little jiggly motion, not a big thing and it's not exactly walking like that. It's a shiver or a shimmy. It's a tiny jiggly action. And then the fifth S is sucking. Female: Another idea is to surround the baby with white noise. Harvey: What’s very important is to use a strong kind of a harsh white noise all night long like the sound of the uterus because when you think about it inside the uterus, the baby has a symphony of sensations. Female: For a while, Jordana ran a blow dryer in the baby’s room which calms the baby and stops a lot of crying. Jordana: The blow dryer is huge. It was like a deep breathe. It feels like someone said to them take a deep breath. That's how they responded to the blow dryer. Female: being able to sooth her babies gave Jordana the boost she needed to finally feel like a good mother. Jordan: It was like a gigantic shot of confidence. You know I didn’t panic with two crying kids. I knew how to swaddle them according to the book. I knew how to go shh loud in their ear, whatever, different ways of holding them and I felt like a winner and it was working and I was helping my kids.