Having another baby means big changes for the whole family. In this video, learn how to deal with a new baby in the family.
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Wendy Turner Webster: A new baby can create a huge amount of stress and chaos in a family from exhaustion to jealous kids and a left out father. The demands of a new born can be emotionally and physically draining especially during the first few weeks. Valerie Outram who works for the Charity Parent Line Plus is here to talk about dealing with this incredibly stressful period in your life. So Valerie new born baby, the first baby that comes along in to your life, I am sure lots of mothers watching can relate to this topic. What are the obvious problems that the Parent Line Plus gets calls about. Valerie Outram: Well I think the main thing is that we have a baby and we don't have an instructional manual, we don't receive any training, there we are with this new life that's totally depend on us and there is a huge amount of anxiety about getting it right and I think there is a lot of pressure on new mothers now a days to be perfect and to have perfect children and there are so many instructions and advice coming from different people that sometimes in the middle of it parents feel very -- mothers feel overwhelmed and anxious about their inability. Wendy Turner Webster: So if someone is in that situation they can ring Parent Line Plus. Valerie Outram: Definitely anytime of day or night we are out 365 days a year, 24 hours a day and I know that personally when my baby work five in the morning and I was up for now I thought I was the only person in the world that wake at that time, but now we have Parent Line Plus and you can call and they would be there and they will answer and may be just calm you down in the situation that you feel like you are tearing your hair out and your baby is screaming and you don't know what to do. And it's somebody that's awaken can help you at any time. Wendy Turner Webster: When we -- I remember when Garry and I bought Jack our first baby back home we rang up the hospital in the middle of the night saying he is crying what should we do and of course no I look back and say oh! My God! At least naïve, we didn't know what to do, we have got a crying baby, suddenly in our bedroom what do we do we don't know. Valerie Outram: Well I think you are definitely not alone I think that most people experience that with the new baby as a huge shock it's that feeling of the dependency of hits you like a ton of breaks and you need to know that there are people out there that can help you. Wendy Turner Webster: I tell you what the advice she gave the nurse of the hospital, she says well if he is crying put him into bed with you too and I am sure he will be alright. The only trouble is he stopped crying and he is still in our bed six years later. Valerie Outram: There are strategies that you could employ. Wendy Turner Webster: So that's an obvious one that they have new born first child, coming in. What about when 2nd, 3rd, 4th, baby comes along that too brings it's own stress, strains and pressure on to the whole family. Valerie Outram: Of course it does. Wendy Turner Webster: The other children too. Valerie Outram: Then you have siblings that are feeling a little bit, knows pushed out and joined little bit and slightly threaten in a situation and you have difficult behavior from may be toddlers, so you have a new baby and you have toddlers making demands, your partners probably working all hours to try and support you all and you are there in the middle trying to cope and of course with your second and third baby don't have anyone near the same amount of first made debut by family or friends. Wendy Turner Webster: Yes you have done it before, you have done it once, so you know what you are doing. Valerie Outram: You are expected to just get on with it. Wendy Turner Webster: That's right so get on with it. Valerie Outram: But of course it is sort of -- it can be much more difficult and I think one of the main things is to try and involve your children into the feeling of it's their baby too and to ask them