A group of dads discuss their experiences on the day of birth.
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Jonathan Wills: Guys one thing which is going to make me really unpopular here but the birth of a child, and I have to say straight away went there to the hospital and then after the birth really is just happiest state of life, isn’t that? Yeah, yeah, yeah and it actually is more than a hand on having, it's absolutely was the happiest – over the years with the children, best things in my life have absolutely been on all the rest of it but actually going to the hospital I found one of the most traumatic experience as we went to there. We had our first one that I think can name Chelsea, which is blown up to be the great thing and frankly we had a really bad experience and we went through terrible sort of labor overnight actually and she took 24 hours effectively for the birth to actually happen and I slept him on floor initially and then for that first period and then we went into the actual operating theatre and they dressed in all the gear and everything with caesarian. They actually at the end -- you may mention the fact that you are forced to get on the danger and we are obviously not forced to get right up at the other end and everything. And I was I think was just in this period of shock for about sort of three weeks but I don’t know how you will describe this. Kevin Day: Actually it's quite interesting. Imagine if somebody is having a caesarian then you wouldn’t have to worry, they will just do it straight away-- Jonathan Wills: Well, they try to induce sort of start up with and then they came, the consultant came and he said actually that's what was really annoying. It was after 16 hours, he said you know what, you are going to get the birth naturally and then that’s for it and everything else sort of thing. Kevin Day: Yeah, absolutely. I can remember that my party member is panic because I mean you prepared it for nine months and you have got the bags packed and you’ve been through the classes, you know you’ve got stuffs or whatever and then it's kind of very odd experience. Well, I can't drive so my dad took me, and my friend was there, they always used to come around. My wife, and my dad had massive argument in the car in the way there about which is the best route. She is facing backwards breathing deeply over the plastic bolt. He is going and she is saying, which way are you going and he said where I always go and then they messed it well. So I made them stop the car, so this is ridiculous. I am terrified. I am panicking a bit. So we got of it, everything was quite easy for us, I would probably hate to say this, but she was only in labor for two hours, but then right at the end we had it and she is probably--her heart rate disappeared and then all these machines came in from nowhere and almost took me--what’s going on, so I was kind of panicking but then the thing I found most odd about labor was afterwards, and it took me a year before I told anyone this, because I was the only one that I was the villain because I didn’t feel an overwhelming sense of joy, I didn’t feel that it's been the best experience of my life. I felt that it's been -- I was aware that in chattering and namely all the way through because in terms of that--obviously seeing through the notes and making the food as she attempts to lie and the atmosphere, there wasn’t always the good things, at one stage when the nurses said we do want to do the video of the birth and I foolishly said thinking this will break the ice, well, no she wouldn’t let me film me and guide in, I am not going to filming coming out, well it wasn’t the best thing because obviously the nurse in the and the midwife were feminists and my wife was just saying, would you stop making jokes about everything but it was bizarre, it was actually a physical bit, it wasn’t difficult. I mean of course there was pain involved and all that, not believe any amount of pain, in fact I would be dead if were in China and they just go out in the back in the paddy field and dropped the baby, you kn