Dating Tips - When approaching women, I've been told that persistence is a good thing. Should I be persistent after receiving the first no? How do I know if I'm being too pushy?
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[Music Playing] Jennifer: Okay this question is actually from one of our huge [Muffled], you guys rock. Dear Dan and Jennifer, when approaching women, I have been told that sometimes persistence is a good thing, do you believe that sometimes when should be persistence after receiving the first no or do you think persistence is a bad thing? [Music Playing] Dan: Okay, there is persistence and there is stalking, you do not want to call in the cops? Saying, “this guy, he keeps following me around, he is following me home, he is following my car, stalker.” Right? Jennifer: That is true. Dan: There is keeping the eye on the goal and trying to make it happen, they are stalking. Jennifer: That is true and also just from a girls perspective, no today may not necessarily means that no tomorrow or next week, because you know I could be having a bad day, I could be just broke up with my boyfriend, I can pissed up with my boss, there is a million reasons. Dan: Or you can be really hooked up with the really awesome guy. Jennifer: That is true. Dan: Yes, it could happen, an amazing guy that you like, you are crazy about. See, that is a perfect example. Jennifer: On top of it. Dan: On top, talk about that later. Okay, where a lot of guys screw up on this. This is where a lot of guys get it wrong, is putting yourself in a position where you are almost guaranteed a no. A lot of guys they will go to a bar, they will see this girl across the way over there and boy she is hot and she looks like she is alone. I think I will go see if she wants to go out with me. And you know, hey, I like you, want to go out? And she will be looking at you, “No!” Jennifer: I do not even know you. Dan: I do not know a damn thing about you, you can be a stalker, a serial rapist, a murderer, you can be clinically insane or you can just be boring. And kind of funky. And we could be related all this things are going through her head and what did he go wrong? He went up to her and with out her knowing anything about him, he put in his position and say, to decide, do I want to see this guy again or not and she is like, “why would I?” Yes, he looks okay but so do half the other guys in here. And you know I know those too from tow to three months back, I know they are not psycho. So, take a different approach, do not put the girl on the spot so she has to give you a yes or no without knowing a damn thing about you. Let her get to know you, work on these basic social dynamics. Jennifer: Have a conversation: Dan: Yes, pretend she is a real person, right? Talk with her, get to know her, make your move and make her, do not put her in a position to make that decision coming. Jennifer: Yes, give her some time.
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