E.R. physician Dr. Travis Stork and OB/GYN Dr. Lisa Masterson share tips for couples to help rekindle the flame.
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Couples Tips to Lift Libido Dr. Lisa: There's definitely a connection here and I think that’s all good. And what I do with my woman when they come in because we are so complex, aren’t we Matt? We’re so complex especially when it comes to libido. And basically, its so many things go into our desire, it’s whether you're stressed, whether your fatigued, how you feel about your body, if you have a good self-body image. Sometimes you can be hormonal, it can be thyroid. It can be the female hormones going on especially after delivery. Those can be off or just sleep deprivation. So we actually look at your hormones, right? Female: Right. Dr. Lisa: And the good news is there are all normal which it great. Female: That’s good. Dr. Lisa: And what I find in more women than not, is that the hormones are normal. And then it’s really this complex of issues whether its -- what's going on with you as far as the stress, self-esteem, busy schedule, relationship things. It really does it sound like a relationship things. And how many kids do you have? Female: We have four boys. Dr. Lisa: Oh shoot! You should have told me that right after that. Normally, I have a little thing that tells me how many kids. Four boys and how old are they? Female: 11, 7, 5 and our youngest just turned a year. Dr. Lisa: Okay, so we need to talk contraception. Actually, that’s we need to talk about but -- and how may I help. But I think basically it sounds like you are very busy mom, which I would just assume with four boys of those ages. Definitely! So I think maybe just a little time maybe changing it up. Do you take a little couple vacations? Female: Probably not as much as what we should. Dr. Lisa: All right. So you have to – and this is what a lot of couples fall into. You get so busy being a family you forget to be a couple and that is actually really, really important. Dr. Travis: But the one thing Dr. Lisa, before you get the gift is I don’t mislead people at home because there are a lot of people watching this right now, a lot of couples thinking well that just the way we are. And that doesn’t mean there's anything wrong with you or your relationship. Part of that is life, but the reason we’re going to get some gifts here because we've done a lot of talking on the show about couples that have sex, two or three times a week. Actually live longer. So that’s a great excuse. Dr. Lisa: Yes. Dr. Travis: So if you're not having sex with your spouse ever, there's a lot of health reasons to go ahead and say, you know what honey, we need to make more play dates. Dr. Lisa: Yes, absolutely. Dr. Travis: So that when you put this together. Dr. Lisa: Yes, this is a sort of a goodie. We call it “goodie sex basket”. Dr. Travis: You can call it that, a “goodie hook-up basket” with your spouse. Dr. Lisa: Okay. And these are things to get you connected. You want to communicate. Massage, touch, go back to romancing, go back to hand holding, go back to dating. A lot of that gets lost and we go right for the gesto. You’ve got to start with the cuddling and stuff like that. So some massage oil – play games and make it fun. Dr. Travis: And the wine you put it in here because this signifies two things. Number one, having a date together and having a glass of wine can be an aphrodisiac. Of course, you go much beyond that, it’s the opposite. But the have dates together, have a glass of wine together. Dr. Lisa: But it’s about getting to be a couple again. But I know you guys are going to do great.