In this relationship video Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal talk about confessing the sexual number and why it is a bad idea.
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Tamsen: Hey, everybody, it’s Matt and Tamsen. Okay, this is a commonly asked question but is also a pretty big debate. Should you ask the person that you’re seeing, dating, sleeping with, married to, whatever it is, I guess by marriage you should know by then, how many partners they’ve had? I say absolutely you have every right to know. Matt: I say, find out on your own in the bedroom. Because when we say something, us guys… Tamsen: Us guys. Us guys. Matt: We know from the technique of a woman in the bedroom how many guys she’s been with and honestly— Tamsen: No, but guys have specific numbers, like I completely— Matt: You know I always hate those guys. They have to ask. Tamsen: Yeah. Like, have you bee with ten guys or eleven guys? Matt: What does that mean? Tamsen: Ten, eleven? Matt: Who cares? Show me the bedroom. How many guys you’ve been with? But that’s hot. Tamsen: But I think its okay for a girl to ask because here’s why. I think there is a comfort level in knowing, like, here’s what your asking basically. You’re kind of asking like around about how many, are we in the like 20s, the 10s? Are we in the hundreds and you kind want to know that because you want to know what you’re dealing with there? I mean you have to trust everybody that you walk and say, no, I’m disease free. It’s totally fine… Matt: Disease free. Tamsen: I think there is absolutely no problem when asking how many guys or girls you went home… Matt: Wear a protection and then you don’t even have to ask. Tamsen: Well, I think you need it now. Matt: This is the deal, you know what, don’t ask. It leaves a mystery. Find out in the bedroom. What do you guys think? Again, should you ask our partner how many men or women they’ve been with? Tamsen: Oh, yeah, nice mystery, one or a hundred? Matt: I’ve slept with women who’ve been with those one or a hundred. I like the hundred better. Tamsen: Well, that’s not what you think. I don’t even wanna know what he has to say.