In this Cherry TV video the women share advice on how to guide a partner in bed whether it be verbally or non-verbally.
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Female: Here the women give advised on communicating with your partner. Female: Positive reinforcement. You can do anything that is in the least bit and improvement over what they are doing 10 times before. You let them know verbally. Female: It is true. Yeah. Female: Just like that. Do not stop. Female: Right, yes. No. Female: And that is pretty hard a mistake. Female: Even if you are a—guy. Female: Positive reinforcement really works. It really works, like do not do that. It is just like putting a stop on that. Female: We are ouch. Female: Ouch is a good one. Female: What about none verbal? Female: It depends on the person too. I mean I find that it is easier for me to sort of move my body by example. With a lot of man, you can just take the hand and put it where you want it. Some men do not like that. Female: Right, right. Female: But a lot of times that will work or sometimes will.. Female: I think it is hot when you move the persons' hand. I have seen that they think it is hot too. Like move it. Female: Or touch yourself. Do not be afraid to touch yourself. Most men—in a couple of men, you think that is weird? But then again I am from Texas. Female: But usually they really like that. They like a little demonstration. Female: I mean there are many men who do like that. I was in fact encouraged to how I learned to how to do that was be a man, who was like show me how you like it. Female: Well that’s just hard. Female: Same thing for me too. Because and then I was like, I have could not really figured it out. But I am broken. And he like, well let us work on that. And it was like all right. Female: Also, do not react if it is not good. You are under no obligation to be moaning and groaning over something that is not doing good for you. Female: But I think that is something a lot of women feel. And I have feel pressure to do. But if it is really not, do not give them the wrong signals. You are only cheating yourself. Female: It is true. And it is tuff to do. Female: And then they are only going to keep trying to do that and if you fake it once, it is really hard to not to do that. They are going to think there is something wrong with you. If it what worse before, it does not work again. Female: True. Because they are falling to a pattern of "this works for her, I will do this because then, I succeed", which even like women when you start out your sexual relations, you want them to have you want them. The orgasm you want them to come and then you are successful. I can do this. Female: It was the goal. Female: Yeah. And they have the same objective. Female: It can be misleading. Female: I fulfilled the positive reinforcement after working for those good sounds, and you just do not make any sounds, don’t go back to what was—but if it no, I feel like ,I can become awkward. Especially if it is not someone you are really familiar with.