America's love experts Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal, explain whether a hook-up can become a boyfriend.
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Matt: Hey, everybody. Matt and Tamsen here with ask Your Tango answering your love questions. Tamsen: Alright today’s question is from Green Penguin. Love brief, turn it around. Alright, here is the question, how do I turn my friend with benefits into something more. Just recently I’ve been wanting to see him for things other than sex, so I how do I go ahead and approach him about this. This is always tough one, right? Matt: Yes, Green Penguin. That's a very interesting name. I like that name. Well Green Penguin, I think that’s a very difficult thing to do so Green Penguin is a girl obviously and we said this before, girls have a hard time with friends with benefits and I don’t know if you’re a guy is on the same page. So it could be a big misunderstanding and you could put yourself in a really bad situation. Tamsen: It better if you don’t want to continue on with just being friends with benefits. You have to do something about it and be honest with yourself. So next step is to see what happens when you stop doing that benefit’s part. You move back in to the friend’s part to see if you could go to the girlfriend part. Matt: You see I’m not agreeing with my wife, my lovely wife. I’m not agreeing with her. I think you basically let him know straight up how you are feeling because you don’t always say time and you will get any deeper, you’re getting more physically addicted to him. Throw it out there, let him know, see how he reacts. He could be feeling the same way, I doubt that. Tamsen: He just go running, try to assess on that one. Matt: That’s a great one. So you got to be rolling to lose but this in limbo kind of thing. You know were piling over him and after you guys are done with the benefit part. You’re wondering what he’s doing? You’re wondering how’s he’s feeling, that’s no way to live. So you got to throw out there and see what happens. Tamsen: Alright this is the Matt and Tamsen with YourTango.com. If you have questions, send them all the way. Matt: Got a question you like answered? Tamsen: Visit YourTango.com/questions.