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Matt: Welcome to That’s What He Said, your window into the boys only club house where guys reveal their deepest secrets about sex, marriage, make ups and breakups. I’m your host Matt Titus and welcome to That’s What He Said. Today, we have some great questions from our friends at ask your tango. ”Does he really just want to be friends, this guy calls me everyday, he text me all the time. He calls me his friend. He says he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship.” The two is that not interested. I mean when he’s telling a girl he just wants to be friends, there’s no hope for this woman. And what happens is when we feel like a girl’s body, we have no problem hanging out with her, we have no problem texting her, she is a dude to us. Michael: I think you’re average guy if he says he just want to be friends generally means that. Now, that doesn’t mean that all hope is lost. Some guys move really slow. I will say that some guys like they’re really cautious, they don’t really want to get their heart out there. Matt: But you won’t to tell this girl that you just want to be friends. Bob: In fact there is a one guy in the world who doesn’t understand the implication of using the word friend in a relationship. Matt: Here’s another question. “Is it possible to be just friends with a woman?” Baron: Yes. I was interested in her. I kind of want something happen, she wasn’t into it and you know what we still— Matt: You can make that transition because you know what if I’m into a chick and she’s not into me and I’m looking at her everyday and I know that she’s not into me and it’s limited, I’m torturing myself. And the other thing is why do guys need girls that are friends. What’s the purpose of that? Bob: So, they can ask them what to do about the girl that they really adore and to have that one on one friendship, man and woman. The reason of girls, they’re probably genuine friend but the reason of the guy there is that hopefully at some point she’s going to want to have sex with you. Matt: That he’s going to turn her somehow. Baron: Any guy with the female friend, if she was like let’s have sex instant, he’ll like yes. But any girl with the male friend and he’s like let’s have sex, she would stop talking to that guy. Bob: You got it. Matt: Good point, here’s the deal. If a guy says to you that he wants to be friends, you’ve got no shot and you shouldn’t rid into it because he just wants to be friends. Got a question that you want answered by our guy panel, go to yourtango.com/questions.