Learn what is going through your man's head during the beginning stages of pregnancy.
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Dakota Mitchell: Hi, I’m Dakota Mitchell, one of the dozens of dads from The Being Dad DVD. Sam Holt: And I’m Sam Holt, one of the many dads from around the world in Being Dad Two bringing the baby home. Dakota Mitchell: And this is another installment in The Being Dad Blog series and today we’re going to be talking about what were worried about during pregnancy? Well, what are we worried about? Sam Holt: When you find out that you’re going to be a dad, there’s nothing you have to worry about. It’s that she panic. From the point you find out probably for the first 24 hours but I think after that you know all the dads that we’ve interviewed tell us the same thing, you calm down and because you can’t see any physical signs of the baby you probably start worrying. Dakota Mitchell: From the first trimester. Sam Holt: Yeah that’s right in the first trimester, you start worrying about intangible things. Dakota Mitchell: I supposed to what? Sam Holt: Well, we’ll get to those later but let’s talk about some of the— Dakota Mitchell: Alright. Well I know the first one we talk about with space. Sam Holt: Yeah, not intergalactic travel, it’s more of— Dakota Mitchell: Star—right. Sam Holt: Yeah exactly not. It’s more about the fact that you’ll probably want to get his golf clubs and his surf board and put them out in a quarterage, yeah. Dakota Mitchell: Yes and it might then turn into the babies room. Sam Holt: Correct. And then you know all of a sudden you’re painting the walls a lovely daffodil with yellow and there goes your football watching haven. Dakota Mitchell: Yeah, but you know my wife she really try to involve me and we really figured out I was you know for the great of good and I was for the new—that we will bring home and it all worked out. Sam Holt: Well I think she can just take it slowly, just take one out and that we can put it into the garage you know. Dakota Mitchell: And she does give me my space from me, that’s all works out okay you know that’s what I would tell a lot of the women, just make sure you don’t completely—the carpet from underneath them. I know part of that also when talking about garages, the car. Sam Holt: Well, we’ve talked about this earlier and my point to you was that I think for a lot of guys they are worried about losing their car because this whole thing that if your mom you need to have a full drive to look tough in this—you know when you’re driving around the supermarket. Dakota Mitchell: Yeah, it’s kind of change your own a bit. I know, we’ve went out and we just got a new car and I was actually leading towards getting a mini van for us and I was the one ho drive it. My wife won’t have nothing to do with it. And I was talking on the dealer and he said actually more guys are interested in the mini vans and women are the ones who want the sporty, more fashionable cars so that’s something you definitely want to talk about because you might find that you guys are actually on different sides of that coin. Sam Holt: Well, good luck if you’re—that’s all I can say and definitely vomit and pooh comes off, you know it comes off— Dakota Mitchell: Yeah definitely. Now, in reference to that you know your relationship is going to be changing because you have a new person coming into it so you’re going from a me to we to a bigger we so. Sam Holt: Yeah, I mean guys talk about pregnancy being a relationship crosses and that’s what it is. It is something you need to sit down and discuss and I mean it’s a huge topic but the reality is sit down, talk about your expectations together in how things not might change but will change. Dakota Mitchell: Will change yeah definitely, I mean. Sam Holt: And he is worried about that. He’s worried about what’s going to happen to the two of you so now it’s the time to start talking about it. Dakota Mitchell: Definitely and bring that up because you’re going to find and you will have him worried about his single friends and things like that and you want to make sure that a lot