Mina-Jacqueline Au is here to tell us the Do's and Don'ts of handling a baby that isn't yours.
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Baby Etiquette Audra Lowe: Having a baby is undeniably one of the greatest joys of life but sometimes the people around you want to share a little too much in that experience and that can also put everybody in an awkward situation. Lifestyle expert and mother as you can see Mina-Jacqueline Au is here and she's going to tell us the dos and the dont's, some of the dos and the dont’s of handling a baby that isn't yours because we know there's plenty of them right? Mina-Jacqueline Au: Yes. Audra Lowe: Good to have you and Tyler here, hello Tyler. Mina-Jacqueline Au: Thank you, thank you. Audra Lowe: Good to have you in the show, he's five months old now. Mina-Jacqueline Au: He's five months, yes. Audra Lowe: Okay, so in the past just a couple of five months you and I both learn quite a bit about the things that kind of annoy you and the things we're not the only ones. Mina-Jacqueline Au: We're not the only ones because he has play dates and I talk to other parents it's a common concern. Audra Lowe: Yeah, one of the biggest urges that a lot of new moms have is when people come and they want to pick up the baby they don't ask the mother they just -- I knew a woman yank our daughter out of our arms right. I didn't even know she we're just took her right out of my hands. That's a big no, no right. Mina-Jacqueline Au: No, absolutely, I mean it's -- it's a common concern and it's not voice. So I think it needs to be addressed. Audra Lowe: Okay. Mina-Jacqueline Au: A lot of them are come -- may come from good intentions, a lot of them are your friends you know you're at a party you're at someone's home they're at your home and they see your son crying even and that's you know maybe he's laying in the stroller or he's lying in his crib, out of good intentions they'll go pick him up for you. What they don’t know is maybe you left him there for reasons like for me I very -- from literally day I let him cry if he needs to cry. For whatever reason unless he's hungry. Because he needs to just understand that and a lot of people just don't get it. Audra Lowe: They don't and they don't understand that you have to undo whatever they just did once they put the baby back down. Mina-Jacqueline Au: Exactly. Audra Lowe: A big issue for me to is people going straight to the hands, the babies' hands and touching the hands without washing their hands. Mina-Jacqueline Au: Yes. Audra Lowe: And then giving you the excuse that you got to build up their immune system I don't want to build their immune system with something you've got and I can't trace it. Mina-Jacqueline Au: Well all you have to do is and this is what I do, I have lots of hand sanitizer in my diaper bag. I stick it in their face and I say "that's okay they have a good immune system, well here you go". Audra Lowe: Without you and thank you very much. Also the names of the baby, you have given your child a name but for some reason other people feel like they have the ability to make up names or to change the name that you've given. Mina-Jacqueline Au: Right, right. Audra Lowe: Right. Mina-Jacqueline Au: They a lot of times the names are like you know Kimberly or Tyler and you know they're shortened forms like Kim, Ty, for example I absolutely hated it when people call him Ty. Audra Lowe: Yeah. Mina-Jacqueline Au: I named him Tyler for a reason. Audra Lowe: Right. Mina-Jacqueline Au: And no Ty. Audra Lowe: Right. Mina-Jacqueline Au: So you know sometimes you just don't know and a lot of people again come from good intention, they want to be closer you know they feel like they're closer to your child by giving them a more endearing name. Audra Lowe: But we have to teach the kids to not answer to certain people right. Mina-Jacqueline Au: Exactly. Audra Lowe: And decisions of the parent's make for the child are purely that of the parents. And there's a reason why the parents make those decisions and we don’t asked anyone else to make those decisions right. Mina-Jacqueline Au: Right, right. And that