Author of The Unexpected When Expecting Video

Mary Moore, author of the riotously funny satire "The Unexpected When You're Expecting" kicks it off with a visit to the DadLabs studio. She gives us the straight scoop on how dads can best support pregnant moms.
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Daddy Clay: Hey there, welcome back to the Lab, I am Daddy Clay; we are here with the 'UnExpected When You're Expecting,' author Mary K. Moore, Mary, thank you very much, for coming into the Lab. Mary K. Moore: Thank you for having me. Daddy Clay: You are very brave for being here. Mary K. Moore: I am comfortable. Daddy Clay: I am okay, I am comfortable than okay, although after reading this book, I am a little bit intimidated that you are going to be funnier than me. Mary K. Moore: Oh well. Daddy Clay: Which is not allowed, I am not sure if you got that. Mary K. Moore: On page when one person is -- different things. Daddy Clay: Both of those things are appropriate as far as, this is a really really funny book. Mary K. Moore: Thank you. Daddy Clay: And I really enjoyed reading it. I think Moms and Dads; you got to own this thing. So I have got here -- you are an expert on this whole pregnancy thing. So let's talk about guys in pregnancy. Mary K. Moore: Alright, let's do. Daddy Clay: They are involved certainly in the process. My question is, what are Dad's doing that's really dumb, knuckle headed. Mary K. Moore: Well, I think it's tougher fathers right now, because the lines have really been blurred between the generations before them, which was a lot less involved, versus the new generation which might take it to crepes sensitive guy extremes. You know you want a guy who comes to your appointment and ask about your well check you don't, want the guy who gazes into your belly like a crystal ball. So, I think it's a manner of kind of defining your manhood, versus just taking it to a level where it is just uncomfortable even for her. Daddy Clay: Yeah, so go to the Gynecology appointments or not? Mary K. Moore: I think you can go, and I think if you can, sure, if that's what you feel comfortable with, and what your partner feels comfortable with. I think it's a good way to kind of know, get more insight into what she is going through in the sense of not just the appointment per se, because you can't really get a sense of that when you are not in the stirrups, but at least when you hear it from the doctor, and you can ask questions, and you can seem very attentive and involved, which most men are, but I think just being there, talking to the doctor, and just showing interest first hand, can go a long way, and will buy you time to be quiet when you are home. Daddy Clay: And so, when is it crossover to staring into your wife's belly like a crystal ball, like what crosses the line? Mary K. Moore: The maternity photo. If you have done the maternity photo, you've starred into the belly, you have taken it too far dude. Daddy Clay: The picture? Mary K. Moore: Yeah, you don't want that. Daddy Clay: You don't want like the tummy picture? Mary K. Moore: You know, I had my husband come to maternity photos, and he stood by me. I was like, you can be near me, but just don't gaze into my body in way shape or form. Daddy Clay: So which leads me to my next question, so you are in the OBGYN's office and the doctor invites you to observe something that's developing in the body of your partner. Mary K. Moore: Well, I don't think that's necessary. Daddy Clay: Yes or no? Mary K. Moore: No, not if you are -- I mean, if you are comfortable, sure. But if you are not comfortable, don't do it, and then explain to her later, like it's -- Arnold, like my husband is a Physician, and you would think that he will be very comfortable with these processes, and he wasn't at all, because he said, that's the thing, it's you. Daddy Clay: Nice talk, you are a little bit, certainly you are no longer an MD, it's the magic place. Well talk, if you can tell me all these years of medical training down the tubes when it is your own wife. Mary K. Moore: That's right. Daddy Clay: I noticed you used the phrase sugar walls in the book. Mary K. Moore: You got to give the -- Daddy Clay: So certainly, it's sugar walls, so but it is an awkward moment, like your doc says, h

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