Alzheimers Disease - John and Betty's Story Video

John's wife Betty began showing warning signs of Alzheimer's disease, like short-term memory loss, in her late 50's. Eventually Betty's neurologist diagnosed her with probable Alzheimer's. John reached out to support groups and the Alzheimer's A...
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At the age of 58, she started having memory problems and it was evidenced mostly by short term memory which is common with all Alzheimer’s people. And she would answer the telephone and I would say, “Who call?” And she didn’t know. I mean that was immediately after she answered the telephone. We were going to Minnesota to see my daughter. This is two years after she was—after she started having problems and we went to the neurologist after going to him for a year. When the doctor came in and said, “You’ve got a problem of Alzheimer’s.” She went on to severe depression. It was devastating. I knew nothing about Alzheimer’s so I went to the public library and I checked out about several books and none of them helped me because they were stories of caregivers talking about taking care of—or grand daddy or something like that or my husband. People think that Alzheimer’s is just a memory problem but that transgresses into the—in all stages. In Hawaii, she would pack and unpack her suitcase all afternoon. If we were going out that evening, she couldn’t decide on what to do. It is just constant. That was one of her behavior problems. You have to take steps such as locking up all of the medications, locking up all of your guns because you don’t know what the behavior is going to happen or result in. And in my last case, she used to watch TV a lot and she read a lot and she did handy crafts, did some hand painting, things like that and she quit all of those immediately, just quit. And she wouldn’t do them. And she would walk through the house praying, “Oh God, Oh God, hit me Oh God!” And want me to walk with her and if I didn’t walk with her then she got mad at me. I started going to the Alzheimer’s about nine years ago and I won’t go with the first two years of my last illness because first couple of years, she bask her illness. She didn’t want anyone to know that she had Alzheimer’s because it has a connotation of being crazy. And you know in the early stages, an Alzheimer’s person can mask that disease. They can have friends for years and they say, “Oh, she sounds okay.” But for five or 10 minutes, it’s okay. But if you’re around them for half a day then you realize there’s problems. And my doctor has said, “John, why don’t you try anti-depressant.” “I don’t need it. I’m okay.” And so I went to the Support group and the leader said, “Who in here is or has taken anti-depressant?” Everyone raised their hand. “And so John, what do you think you are a superman?” And it was about that time my life had been in assisted living for couple of years and Christmas time came around and she choked because that’s one of the symptoms of Alzheimer’s. They forget to swallow and had to do the Heimlich—she almost died. And just about that time, she quit walking and she was physically able to walk but the brain would not let her walk and she’s on wheelchair by then. And just about that time, well because of the choke and she had to go on pureed foods and liquids to keep from choking anymore. And that was Christmas time. And that was just tough, tough. And that’s when I start taking anti-depressant 36-hour a day. This is a Bible for Alzheimer’s and it was written by two Harvard doctors in layman’s language. And you don’t read the whole thing from cover to cover. But you look at the index and find a particular topic that’s bothering you and you look at that. But that was my salvation. Unfortunate and that I worked for State Farm Insurance for 33 years and I had a 401k and I had a good retirement. And I retired at 63 in 1994. So, I had some savings and I had a long term care policy that paid $85.00 a day and when I took it out years ago, I though well that’s great but I didn’t realized that when I needed it, $130.00 was an average cost of a nursing home or even higher. And so I have to spend approximately $200,000.00 in addition to my $150,000.00 long term care insurance. And since my wife was only 58 when she got it and could live for a possible after 20

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