In this relationship video Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal talk about when relationships work with friends and when they don't.
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Tamsen: Hey everybody Matt and Tamsen here. Okay, friends and lovers you know that song? Matt: Yeah, why not sing the song for us. Tamsen: I’m going to. Alright, it’s a good idea to become lovers after you’ve been friends for long time, like should you develop into that and I think it’s sweet. I really like the idea. Matt: Of course you do. Tamsen: I like that idea. I think there’s nothing wrong with that because I think that you’ll always have that hopefully, always have that friendship at some point. Go ahead, knock me down, go ahead. Matt: It’s literally disaster and I have to tell you why, because I have first kind of experience with this. I was once married before as a lot of people know. And I wasn’t a good husband but you know beside the point my application here is that I dated my ex-wife for five years before I married her. Tamsen: And are you friends with her? Matt: We were and before that we were friends. And then we dated for five years and it really shouldn’t be based on—a physical connection was based on, an emotional connection and we became very familiar with each other like friends naturally do. So when it became you know romantic it was sort of weird and odd and it just making—yeah, it was like making up with one of my best friends and the sexual connection wasn’t there and it was just she knew too much about to me and I knew too much about her, you know before we got romantic. So I don’t like that. I want to be physically attractive to somebody, get to know them a little bit, have some great sex, and then maybe decide if I want to move forward with this woman. Tamsen: I like my lollipop land that I lived in but friends can develop into amazing lovers, so let us know what you think.