Adjusting to Being a First Time Mom Video

Having your first baby can be the single biggest transition you will ever experience in your life and while some people might tell you the first few months are difficult, that isn't the half of it. Viki Glembock is here to share the most important...
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Female: Having your first baby can be the single biggest transition you will ever experience in your life. And while some people might tell you that the first few months are difficult, tat’s not even half of it. Vicky Guilenboggy wrote a memoire called “The Second Nine Months”. She’s here to share the most important things that she wishes someone would have told her when she was pregnant and I love this book Vicky because you're getting real about being a first time mom. Vicky: Yeah true. Female: And the first you say, you said embrace those maternity clothes. Just when you want to pitch them, embrace them Vicky: yeah, I mean when you think you're going to come home from the hospital and you're going to be back to normal but then you look in the mirror and it's like somebody has twisted off your head and put it on your mom’s body. You're like you still need those pants with the big waistline even though you want to burn them. Female: No skinny jeans. Vicky: It's been four years. We’re still not at the skinny jeans, right? Female: So embrace those maternity clothes. Vicky: Yeah and love them. Female: All right second thing you said, be prepared babies cry. Vicky: Yeah, I didn’t realize that how often and much they cried and how non-stop that was and how much time you spend with them from like oh I can fix this to—oh my God, please shut up, please shut up”. So, it's crazy. Female: Yeah, since like they sleep a lot but actually— Vicky: They do cry a lot. Yeah, they cry a lot, equal probably. Female: Okay, so be ready for that one as well. And the next thing you said in this one I love because I've heard this from friends of mine, you will want to care your husband. Why is this? Vicky: Because your husband still thinks he can go to the gym after work and he does. And you come home and you're like “take this baby away from me”. But you know we’re all going through the same thing but it's harder on the mom. And I just didn’t realize I was going to want to kill him so kind of frequently really. Female: Is it okay to feel like that? Vicky: Oh yeah. I mean sure. Female: It's normal. Vicky: Nobody talks about the fact that they’re feeling that way which is why I wrote this but you know everybody is in one way or another feel like that way. Female: All right and the next thing you said, you said people will tell you call if you need anything. I think people a lot of times think people are just saying that. Vicky: Yeah and you're also kind of afraid to ask for help because being a mother is suppose to be you know natural and you're suppose to know what to do. So, and what I found was I didn’t want to say hey can you come over and bring me a casserole? Please? Female: You want to be super mom and do it all yourself. Vicky: Yeah because you think you should be able to because it seems like everybody else is doing that but you really need to ask for help. I wish somebody would’ve said that to me. Female: And that just brings unwanted stress by not asking. Vicky: Yeah, totally. Female: Okay the next thing you said and this is an interesting one, you said find other moms that have kids that are the same age. Why is this important? Vicky: Well, when you're with somebody who has—you know you have a newborn and they have a newborn and a three-year-old, they have totally forgotten what the transition with your first baby which is not like your second or your third. The first baby is like yesterday no baby, today baby. And that is a new thing in your life. And so they’ll say things like “oh that will get better, oh you'll be fine” whereas what you really need to hear is “I'm totally digging that. It's exactly how I feel”. They forgotten. Female: So you need to find someone going through the same thing as you. Gotcha! And you say moms lie. What are moms lying about? Vicky We all lie and we continue to lie but our biggest fear is that we don’t want people to think of us as bad moms. So you're saying things like “oh we’re fine”, “oh it's great, best t

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