http://innergold.com, Gordon Bruin asked to present to hospital about addiction and the brain.
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Addiction Presentation - Part 4 of 9 Isn't not enough to help me or even more my love for my family, why isn’t that enough? Now, we understand more, it’s because we have another part of us that doesn’t care about that. It’s just instinctive and a part of who we are. It’s basically the type of brain that’s functioning in a lion or a tiger. When we learn to accept that, then we don’t need to fight it the same way because this is what happens when we fight. I never ever tell anyone who is struggling with an addiction to promise me they’re never going to do it again. It’s not very effective and in essence what happens, it kicks off the limbic regions of the brain and makes it actually more powerful, so it goes underground, says, okay just watch me. The limbic regions of the brain doesn’t even care if an individual comes to treatment, they’re fine with it, go treatment, go ahead. Go ahead that’s great stuff you’re learning, now let’s go have a drink and let’s go home again on the computer, that’s what it does. And so shifting the language to helping people understand that is having tremendous impacts in people’s lives. Many people who read this information for the first time and again this is dealing specifically with what I’m doing. I’ve written a treatment manual that I use with clients in the sexual addiction arena and many have said that when they read that, it was where the client last night which actually got him in my doors. He said, “I purchased your manual a while ago and when I started reading through it, it’s the first things that ever made sense to me. It was like you’re talking directly to me about what’s been going on in my head all along and no one has ever explained that to me, and we’re talking about these principles. So the treatment continues, talk a little bit about denial, rationalization, blaming, projection, and we move in to admittance and then acceptance and then what we describe to move people towards this concept that surrender which is really challenging to teach. It’s like the individual I was seeing last night for the first time I say, “Yeah read that in your manual, I’m really confused about this soul surrender thing. What am I supposed to be surrendering to you and how do I do that?” And that’s what treatment is about. We’ll talk a little about that. Here are the options, surrender. When you attack or direct from your extra point of view or real power you have a tendency just to make the limbic regions of the brain stronger. So I want to straight will power against addiction, you’re trying to out do the instinctive survival part of the brain. And does this survival part of the brain do? Fight or flight. So when we go in battle with it, I’m going to crash, he’ll destroy you, what does it do? It just does instinctively, ”Oh yeah, you think you can,” and it just wears you down and that’s what we’ve seen happen over an over and over again. So fighting it with will power, you can wipe noble things for a while that doesn’t last. It ends up wearing you down and then you go back and do whatever the behavior that there is. So, and when the limbic system is satisfied, kind of nice cuddly lions there, that you could almost feel like you can go up and just hug them and stuff like that and roll on and play on, well when it doesn’t get what it wants, that’s what it feels like. And those individuals who struggle with addiction, when they have brain hit, it is when that’s what happens. It’s almost like the—is just not even functioning and these things takes over and are compelled to go do something. And that’s what we work on our treatment, strengthening this other part of themselves that can learn to manage that through acceptance, surrender, awareness, mindfulness and faith, which I believe is what the language of recovery is all about. A good word to describe what happens when individuals have a strong pain and hit them is besiege. It just basically means, lay siege, the crowd, around, the crowd in upon, surround