Learn about overcoming fear when parenting to an autistic child.
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Hi and welcome back to Power Over Autism.com. Today with Meredith, today we’re going to be working on a topic that I feel is so important and it’s really going to have this levels were it branches out into all these other areas of your life. And before I keep going, I just want to give a quick shout out to Tubemogul, if you are looking to do any kind of logging, or any other kind of video work on the internet, turn to tubemogul.com. So with this topic today, the topic is fear. And fear can really reach into so many areas of your life that it becomes almost like a spider. And so we really need to understand fear because it is such an incredibly powerful force and there are some forces that can counter balance it and we can turn to but unless we do, it can really inhibit us. And it can also really change our parenting styles. And I am going to be having some podcasts going, I’m going to be adding podcasts for download on my website, Power Over Autism, and, so you’ll be able to find more information at the podcast probably not on the written blog. So today’s topic, fear, we want to begin today’s topic by talking about what does fear do? What happens when we have fear in our heart, in our spirit? And number one, these are the five things that fear can do in our lives. Number one, fear can cause this incredible amount of shyness in us. And not shyness necessarily towards people although it can, however, just shying away from things that would be otherwise be good for us, in our lives. Number two, when opportunity knocks at our door and we see some wonderful thing that we can be doing in life, fear is going to be the number one thing .in fact if you look anything in your life where an opportunity has past you by, look back at that at do some self reflection I guarantee you that you will find that fear was involved. Number three, fear makes us or changes our personality quite a bit and so fear can make us angry and it can make us change toward our family members, those are the people that we love, we know we can turn to at all times, and they’re going to still love us. So we may treat them in a way that we wouldn’t necessary want to treat them or that we may not treat them normally. Number four, fear leads to an unwillingness of us to work with others, to open up and listen to all of the options that are on the table and take all other perspectives into account. And number five, fear builds more fear. Okay so fear builds fear and that is not a good thing so it can make us irrational eventually. So we want to look at the five top fear busters. Number one of the five top fear busters is that you want to identify where is your fear coming from. Usually there’s two ways, now you need to look into your emotions and that sometimes can be threatening but you want to do it anyway, and if you’re feeling angry, anger comes only from one of two sources either feeling hurt. So our feelings are hurt or number two is feeling scared or afraid of something. So now if you’re feeling hurt or scared, that’s going to lead to fear so anger equals hurt or scared equals fear, and so you want to look to that. Number two, you want to identify all the sources of pain or what you perceived to be painful. Whatever things in your life you perceived to be painful have likely led you to turn on a switch in your mind, in your subconscious probably, that then you want to detour away from whatever that is. And those things that you may have perceived to be painful at one time may not be that painful or it may be a pain that you need to overcome such as, a new exercise workout. Something like that may be something that you would want to overcome because the benefits of overcoming it far outweigh the pain. And number three, is that you want to face your fear. So no matter how awful this may seem, you need to consciously set it up so that you could face this fear. So this is what we’re talking about and this is what you’ll hear in my podcast and throughout a lo