4 Steps To Finding Love Video

Therapist Diana Kirschner discusses her book, Love in 90 Days, which helps women find their true love.
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Diana Kirschner: I'm Dr. Diana Kirschner and my book is "Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love". Yes, it is possible to find love in 90 days. The 90 days program is the four prompt approach. The first thing you do you identify and identify and break your deadly dating patterns and some of the common ones include the flameout, we need a hotty, we jump in to soon, we're spending 5 hour date with him, we're having sex with him, it's unbelievable an then disappears. Another one is called not perfect I'll pass and that's being really picky, picky, picky judgmental -- he spilled his coffee when we were at the start bugs on him so I can't really take another look at him. And then another one is Crumbs and that means that you settle for whatever you can get. Then you go on what I call a dating program of three. And in the dating program of 3 you're going to actually date three guys at the same time, without having sex with any of them. If you have sex, what can happen is that your body can start following in love with that person, before you even know who he is. That's what everybody says, three guys come on I can't even find one. You sign up for two online dating sites. I recommend one that is large that is like eHarmony and then one that is the boutique site. So it's based on either your background or your interest. You also, cultivate what I call your diamond self, which really helps you bust through shyness. You actually give yourself a name. It's kind of like doing what Queen Latifah did, her real name is Dana Owens, that she gave herself a diamond self name and you can see that as very empowering. And then you also get yourself a love mentor. Now this is somebody who is kind of like a fairly Godmother who gives you the most profound support and really helps you find the one. People say if it's meant to happen, it would just happen. In what other area of your life would you ever that attitude? If I was meant to be fit, it would just happen I would be fit. Well, you know love isn't any different. You have to put yourself out there and then, chances are you'll get lucky.

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