You’re dealing with an adult, one who has likely been smoking for several years. Around 70 percent of smokers say they want to quit, so odds are your partner may already be thinking about quitting. Express to your partner the concerns you have for his or her health future, and explain how important it is to you that your spouse or partner is around for the longer term.

Don’t Push Too Hard

If your partner thinks you are beginning to nag, he or she may stop listening to you completely. It is important to approach the discussion in measured ways and then know when you have said all you should for that day. Give your partner things to think about, and let him or her come to you to talk about it when the time is right for them.

Tell Your Side of the Story

Many smokers don’t realize the emotional and physical damage their habit has on loved ones. In addition to the hazards of second-hand smoke, the price of cigarettes can be exhaustive on a family’s budget. Provide your partner with a cost analysis, and then show him or her what your family could have if money wasn’t thrown away on cigarettes—a vacation, new furniture, a better car.

Be Supportive

Especially on the hard days. Nicotine is a drug, and a nicotine addiction can be emotionally and physically painful, especially as your partner encounters withdrawals and cravings. If he or she needs a distraction from a craving, play a game, take a walk, or work in the yard together.