Depression After the Death of a Loved One
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Depression After the Death of a Loved One

What Is Depression?

There are many beautiful and uplifting things in life, but there is also loss. Losing a loved one can trigger intense feelings of grief. For some people, this grief can lead to depression or make underlying depression worse.

You can expect to grieve and feel sad after a loss, but major depressive disorder, or depression, is a condition that causes prolonged feelings of sadness that can impact a person’s ability to perform daily activities.

Whether you experience depression or grief, there are many approaches that can help you heal with time.

Differences Between Grief and Depression

Everyone grieves differently. Some people may have symptoms that are very similar to depression, such as withdrawal from social settings and intense feelings of sadness. However, there are very important differences between depression and grief.

Symptom duration. People with depression feel depressed almost all the time. Grieving people often have symptoms that fluctuate, or come in waves.

Self-esteem. Those who experience major depression have a significant lack of self-esteem. They often say they feel worthless or even that they hate themselves. Those with grief don’t typically have these feelings.

Hallucinations/delusions. A person experiencing depression may have hallucinations or delusions. This involves hearing voices, seeing things that aren’t there, or believing things that aren’t true. People who are grieving typically don’t experience these symptoms.

Acceptance of support. People with depression often begin to isolate themselves and may even shun others. People who are grieving may avoid vibrant social settings, but they often accept some support from loved ones.

Grief can be a trigger for major depressive disorder, but not everyone who grieves will experience severe depression.

What Is Complicated Grief?

Grief is a normal, expected set of emotions that can occur after the loss of a loved one. However, some people experience a more significant and longer-lasting level of grief. This is known as complicated grief.

Complicated grief is somewhere between grief and depression. It can also lead to depression or worsen depression in someone who already experiences it.

Symptoms of complicated grief include:

  • difficulty thinking of anything other than your loved one’s death
  • lasting longing for your deceased loved one
  • difficulty accepting that your loved one is gone
  • long-lasting bitterness over the loss
  • feeling as if your life no longer has meaning
  • difficulty trusting others
  • difficulty remembering positive memories of your loved one
  • grieving that gets worse instead of better

Seek mental health counseling if you think you’re experiencing complicated grief after the death of a loved one.

Help for Those Who Are Grieving

Taking care of yourself is not a selfish action when you’re experiencing grief. Instead, it can be a part of the process that helps you feel mentally and physically better.

Some ways to care for yourself include:

  • exercising regularly, such as going on a walk, riding a bicycle, using an elliptical machine, or taking an exercise class
  • getting at least seven to eight hours of sleep every night
  • exploring a new skill, such as taking a cooking class, joining a book club, or taking a seminar at your local college
  • calling or seeing friends or loved ones who can offer support
  • seeking out a support group for those who have experienced the loss of a loved one

Just as some approaches can help, others may not. Turning to drugs or alcohol as a means to escape your thoughts is not productive behavior, and can actually make you feel worse over time.

When you come to an important date related to your loved one, such as an anniversary or birthday, you don’t have to pretend the date isn’t significant to you. Acknowledge the day. Celebrate your loved one’s memory or spend time with loved ones that can help you feel better.

When to Seek Help

The loss of a loved one is life-changing and can leave a profound hole in your life. Call your doctor if this loss causes you to experience the following symptoms:

  • difficulty performing everyday activities
  • feeling guilty or blaming yourself for your loved one’s death
  • feeling as if you have no purpose in life
  • losing desire to engage in social activities
  • wishing you had died as well
  • feeling as if your life isn’t worth living if you don’t have your loved one

Call 911 or have someone take you to an emergency room if you experience thoughts of suicide or harming yourself. You can also call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline to speak to a professional at 800-273-8255.

Long-Term Outlook

Losing a loved one doesn’t mean your life is over, but it does mean things will be different. Seeking help and support can help you feel better. With time, you can find healing that will help you move forward with life while also celebrating your loved one’s memory. 

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