Cyberbullying: Confronting the Modern Face of Bullying


Communication tools such as cell phones and the internet are becoming more sophisticated each year. According to the National Crime Prevention Council (NCPC), internet use among high school and middle school students is constantly on the rise. These children are sucked deeper into the intensely emotional, frequently dramatic, and sometimes dangerous social world of school.

Cell phones may seem like harmless tools for making plans or dropping a quick note, but they can also be dangerous. As long as a cell phone or a computer is on, it can act as a sounding board for the constant mood swings, gossiping, and social power games of the teenage social environment. This is the foundation of cyberbullying.

These days, problems students’ face at school don't end at the final bell. Constant text messages and instant messages continue to come in until kids fall asleep and return when they wake up. With the press of a button, a rumor can spread exponentially to the entire school and even to strangers online.

According to, cyberbullied kids are more likely to:

  • use alcohol and drugs
  • skip school
  • experience in-person bullying
  • be unwilling to attend school
  • receive poor grades
  • have lower self-esteem
  • have more health problems

These issues and others like them play out across the country. They signal a desperate need for parents and educators to reevaluate the common conception of bullying and pay special attention the role technology now plays in this dangerous behavioral practice.

What Is Cyberbullying?

According to the NCPC, cyberbulling is similar to other types of bullying, but it takes place online and through text messages. The electronic means of contact may include:

  • email
  • instant messaging
  • text messaging on cell phones
  • digital photos sent via cell phone
  • social networking sites like Facebook
  • blogs
  • web pages

Cyberbullying is likely to be combined with face-to-face bullying.

The Anonymous Bully

You don't necessarily know who's bullying you when it's online or through text messages. Bullies can make themselves anonymous by using fake screen names, or temporary email addresses, or by texting from someone else's phone.

A child who has been cyberbullied may become suspicious, paranoid, and socially anxious. Because of this anonymity, it takes little effort or guts to say something hurtful online. This can embolden a bully who may have been scared to do or say something face to face.

Instant and Viral

It only takes a second to forward a hurtful e-mail, text message, or image. This makes it all too easy for cyberbullying attacks to spread quickly throughout a social group, to the rest of the school, and even to the general public. If someone scrawls a mean message in the bathroom at school, only the people who see it would read it.

But a message online can be posted on a website or emailed out to everyone in a matter of seconds. An embarrassing moment can similarly be amplified by its sudden availability to the world. Materials can be manipulated—cut and pasted in a way that inaccurately represents what someone said or looks like—for the purpose of emotional harassment. This makes cyberbullying harder to trace, easier to develop, and unpredictable in ways that face-to-face bullying is not.

Around-the-Clock Harassment

Unlike face-to-face bullying, which tends to happen in school or other social environments, cyberbullying can follow victims around wherever they go. It can happen at any time of night or day. And because children often need their cell phone or computer for legitimate uses, it may be hard or even impossible to escape from a bully's torment.

Since the messages never go away, cyberbullying creates a feeling of ongoing, unstoppable bullying.

Confronting Cyberbulling

The first step is to build awareness of the issue. It’s essential that parents remain vigilant because children are even less likely to report incidences of cyberbullying than they are traditional bullying.

Parents need to look for signs, like:

  • avoiding the computer or cell phone
  • appearing stressed out when receiving text messages or other communications
  • avoiding conversations about computer or phone use
  • withdrawing from social life
  • declining grades and avoidance of school
  • lack of sleep or eating
  • any change in emotions and behavior

If your child has been bullied online or on the phone, don't take away their internet or phone privileges. Try to talk openly and calmly with your child about what happened. Tell them you are there to be their advocate. Approach a teacher or school official about the situation. Bullying is a community problem and requires a community solution.

Tips for Children

Children who are being cyberbullied may feel helpless. It's important that they understand that cyberbullying is not okay and they don't have to put up with it. Below are few useful tips to share with your child about how to handle cyberbullying.

  • Don't respond. Your reaction is what the bully wants—don't give it to them.
  • Don't retaliate. Getting even just makes you a bully too and generates a cycle of aggression.
  • Talk to an adult you trust. Talk to a parent, a teacher, or school counselor. If there isn't an adult you feel comfortable speaking to, try to report the behavior anonymously at school.
  • Save the evidence. One good thing about cyberbullying is that the evidence can be saved and shown to someone who may be able to help
  • Don't be a passive bystander. If you get a hurtful message about someone else, don't forward it along. Let the person who sent it to you know that what they're doing is not okay, or report the behavior.

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